apurva asked, Hello guru, i am 21 male, i always wanted a girl who i can love. but i am still not able to get any girl for me.. i think i have decent looks. ..as soon as decide to propose a girl, i get very very nervous and decide against proposing her.please help me get out of this nerviouness

Love Guru answers, If you're nervous about doing it in person, maybe you should consider sending a letter/ email expressing your feelings.

ll asked, hi lg, i m in love with a girl who recently broke up after a 5 yr relationship, should i go and tell my feelings to her or let her give some time, wat if she sayz no?

Love Guru answers, Be a friend to her for now. Wait for a couple of months to pass and then propose. By then she will have more perspective about her previous relationship and will be able to give you a better, well-thought out answer.

Pollock asked, Hi LG, I've been almost 3 yrs without GF. In these years I have slept with 2 gurls, but relation could not last long. My only fear is am I am getting used to my current situation, where in I see gurls just for fun but don't like to get serious. As I still love my Ex-G.F. Though I still talk to my Ex G.F but still there is something which holds me back in asking her for a relationship again. Do you think I need some sought of counseling or treatment. Coz my attitude towards relation is very short term. I lost hope - to be honest. Please Advise.

Love Guru answers, If you're in love with your ex, you need to tell her that. Don't let your ego come in the way of things. Obviously, if you're in love with one person and sleeping with another, you're not going to be interested in a long-term relationship with the latter, are you? You don't need counselling, but you do need closure from your previous relationship. Either resume it or then make a conscious effort to get over your feelings for your ex.

kavita asked, i met a guy thru orkut & we started online chattg. its been 6 months & he is a very good frnd by now. thers no flirtg or nything in our relation just pure frndship.but i fear d future & how long this frndship wll last. i hav never met him. i may get married in abt an year & he says he wll stop talkg with me bcoz maybe my husband wont like it. it is disturbing me

Love Guru answers, Well, Kavita, maybe that is his way of getting you to admit you care about him too much to let him go? Do you? Do you want to meet him? Do you think that maybe you'd like to be more than just friends? Sort all this out before you go ahead and get married.

TY asked, HI love guru I am 32 yr married guy in relationship with 28 yr married lady.we are having physical relationship since last 6months.Now she is pregnant with her 2nd child & we both r confused whether child is from me or her husband.v both r very disturbed.pl help

Love Guru answers, Having an extramarital affair is one thing, but couldn't you at least use contraception? It's only common sense, unless you want a baby. Go to a gynaecologist and ask whow you can go about determining the DNA match of the unborn baby. You'll find out that way.

Mahesh asked, I am 24 years old. I am in a long distance relationship with a girl whom I have never met. We share an excellent chemistry with each other over the phone. We talk about 2-3 hours daily. We enjoy each others company and we both believe that we are made for each other. We have shared numerous photographs over mail too. Even after this, we have insecurities, as we have never met each other. How important is it, to meet the person you love? Do long distance relationships work?

Love Guru answers, Long distance relationships can work, but they are tough and you have to know your partner personally! Whether you fancy yourself in love or not, it's vital for the two of you to meet. Then decide what you want to do about your relationship.

sunaina asked, Hi, one day my frnd told me that he loves me. I was surprised why all of a sudden he started loving me. Since I used to like him from initial, I was happy. I too said him that I love him. But was having a doubt, whether he loves me or not. Then frm his bhvr, I came to knw dat he dsnt luv me. I asked him the same, he did agree that he doesnt love me. He said he loved a girl from two yrs, then she got married. So she told him to find a gf n lov her. So he said that he loves me. When he said all this, being a frnd I helped him out to back to his normal life. He did that. So m hpy. But Afterwards he said, if u ever need a frnd, I'm always here. But be hpy with ur life n leave me alone. I cant spoil ur life nor can love any1 else. But Sir m nt able to forget him at all. Plz help me out. Give any suggestion. Plz.

Love Guru answers, Sunaina, this guy thought he would get over his ex if he started a relationship with you. He realised he was wrong. Now the thing is, you have to realise that you can't force him to be with you. Have one talk with him. Tell him you feel for him and can make him happy, but if he refuses to change his mind about loving someone else and wants to sulk for the rest of his life over one girl, that's his problem. He will probably tell you he can't love you, in which case you can tell him that you'll move on in life, then. Because unlike him, you shouldn't throw your time away moping for someone you can't have. If there is any future for the two of you, he's the one who has to understand that. If he does, he will come back to you -- if not, you're better off than him, anyway. Because you're moving on, with or without him.

Also see: 'I slept with one brother, want to marry the other'