priya asked, i am married for about 9 months now and 7 months pregnant. my husband doesnt care for me.he is always praising his family and friends. he is always angry with me.i really fear from him.i love him but he is hurting me and my confidence is getting low day by day. plz let me know what can i do.

Love Guru answers, Priya, don't let your husband walk all over you. Becuase you are letting him, he is taking advantage. Don't be scared of him or anyone else. Tell him straight that you won't be treated like a second-rate citizen in your own home and that pregnant or not, you will walk out on him if he continues to harass you. And keep your word. If he doesn't mend his ways, you're better off without him than suffering with him for the rest of your life. And don't worry about the baby, in the event of a divorce he would have to pay to support you and your child.

liza asked, i 37 year old married women. my husband is chain smoker n drink also lot. how will this things he will stop as it is very ireatting me vn we have sex n he likes snuzing

Love Guru answers, You need to tell him what you've told me. Not only are his habits bad for his health, they are ruining your relationship. He may need professional help to overcome them, but he should want to give them up in order to make things better.

Meet asked, Hey Love Guru, My problem is that my boyfriend takes me for granted. Its not that he doesn't love me but its just that his busy schedule refrains us from communication, not even on phone. If I don't call him a day he doesn't call back. He is quite practical and values his work and family over everything else. Our relationship's future is also quite gloomy as he talked to his family about me 6 months back but since then there is no positive / negative response from their side. I really don't know what to do to make him long for me. Its been a year since we are together now. Please suggest something.

Love Guru answers, Stop sitting around waiting for him to take some initiative, girl! You take some instead! Tell him you want to know where this relationship is headed, that you'd like someone who makes at least some effort to stay in touch and that without romance, your relationship will die a natural death. Either he wisens up to the fact that you're tired of hanging around waiting for him, or then you move on.

anitha asked, I loved one guy , but he is not agreeing to marry me bcos his parents warned him that they will committ suicide if he did any love marriage .

Love Guru answers, Ridiculous -- they sound like a pair of selfish, controlling fools. Why doesn't he just tell them he likes you but doesn't know you? That way, they may approach your parents formally and it will have been 'arranged'. Or have your parents approach his. If I was him I'd really tell my parents off if they spoke such rubbish!

rkm asked, Dear Guru, I like one girl in Mumbai but we had sex each other occassionally. please tell she likes me or dislike. now she is skidding. please tell me what to do. i am alone and i want a girl very oftenly.

Love Guru answers, Well, she must like you at least a little to have had sex with you! Tell her how you feel about her.

jayant asked, i am in love with a girl from last 07 years,we want to marry,but because of her parents, she is unable to decide what to do? what should i do next?.....

Love Guru answers, How long will you wait till she makes up her mind, Jayant? Another 7 years? Or 10? You've given her enough time to think this through. She needs to give you an answer now, or else just call things off.

satah asked, hi, im a 22yr old married girl, and have been married for abt a yr and a half. Alls good in my marriage, i work wid my husband too.He is a very good man and i have been very happy wid him. But lately, work pressure has been alot for him and i understand that. And because of this our freq of s** has reduced. he never seems to initiate it, though he never complains if i do. If i complain abt this, he gets pissed with me and even hit me once. I understand that maybe ts me who shud be understanding, but is it too much to ask for a lil consideration in return. Plz suggest wat i shud do.

Love Guru answers, Everyone is under stress with the tough job situation right now, but that is no reason to let your relationship suffer and it is certainly no excuse to raise your hand on yuor wife. It is healthy to discuss your sex life with each other and what you want and expect from each other. You need to explain that to him and warn him that you will not tolerate him raising his hand on you ever again. Also, the fact that he doesn't complain if you initiate sex means that he is not averse to the idea of having it. So don't nag him too much about it. As long as you both have a satisfying sex life and can discuss it with each other, it doesn't matter so much who initiates it and who doesn't.

Also see: 'My girlfriend has a dreadful past'