mary asked, Hi LG, i found that my husband watches porn..it makes me feel very inadequate about myself. Please tell me how to handle this...

Love Guru answers, Mary, watching porn doesn't mean that your husband doesn't love you or is not sexually attracted towards you. It doesn't amount to cheating, it's just a guy thing. If it makes you feel so miserable, maybe you should discuss how you feel with him.

supraba asked, love guru this is supraba, i am working in a company and where i met on boy, who is in love with me and iam not able to tell him that iam not in love with him , how can i epxress him, pl tell me

Love Guru answers, The more you delay telling him, the worse you'll end up hurting him. You just have to do it, even if it feels unpleasant. Tell him you're sorry, but you would like to remain just friends, because you don't feel the same way.

Sourav asked, I have married for last 10 years. Now i came to know that my wife is having affair before marriage for 3 years. After marriage also she was talking to him over phone after 2-3 months gap as she told me when i caught him now. I am in deep mental trouble. She is telling me that she lovs me a lot and her talking to her boyfriend was just time pass. Her boy friend is also now married. I had planned to tell this matter to his wife and about his cheating. Pls. suggest what should be done now as when i cam to know about this affairs for last 2 years,i everytime thinks about my wife's cheating. I doubt about his virginity as well now. PLS. ADVICE.

Love Guru answers, Look, Sourav, I can understand if you're upset that your wife hid her past from you. She should have trusted you enough to tell you everything. But I also think that when you marry or fall in love, you need to accept that person wholeheartedly, and that includes his/ her past. As for her talking to her ex, are you sure they're not just friends now? How are you so sure they're cheating on you, emotionally or otherwise? I'm not saying you're wrong, but there is a possibility that you could be. So tell your wife that you can accept her past, but not her lying and that if your marriage is to work she is never to lie to you again. Also, if you are uncomfortable with her talking to the ex, tell her that she should keep her distance from him.

Jay asked, Hi, LoveGuru, my problem is complicated. I was friends with a girl three years ago....our friendship lasted for 1 yr....after which I said....that I hav hidden something from u....that I loved her........but due to circumstances I could never express that to her.......and she thought I hid something grave from her....may be she knew that I was about to propose her who knows....plz if possible read this blog to know the detail of the problem. story-of-a-blooming-bud.blogspot.com I'm really in a mess man...it's a small one, the part mentioned "Aayushi Singhal"....but even if u don't read it....I am continuing from there...I tried to msg her and scrap from orkut....she sometimes replied sometimes didn't.......but when I deleted my account she was upset according to my friends...she lives far now...and I can only visit her probably after this yr coz of my board xams.....should I visit her without notification ? I dunno if I could xplain my problem....it's too big a story...:(

Love Guru answers, Hey, Jay...look, buddy, if you want the girl, go visit her. And tell her the truth, instead of going around and around in circles. Hope for an 'I love you too' and be prepared for an 'I don't love you'. That's all there is to it.

sapkar asked, HI Guru, I am a gay guy , my boyfriend wanted to move with me, when i wanted to relocate for better prospects.BUt i changed my mind , and stayed back , with my present Co. for a better role. He also changed jobs for the better. Now i do not think the role suits me, and am getting better offers in other metros, but dragging my boyfriend away from his new job is also unfair. But we cannot stay without each other for very long periods.Pls advise

Love Guru answers, Sapkar, I think you and your boyfriend should discuss what you both want out of life. Are you both willing to move to another city if both of you secure good jobs? If so, apply together and make the move together -- with both moving toward better prospects, it's a good idea. But if you want to move and he is only making the move because of you, he'll be unhappy there. Relationships require a compromise on both sides and maybe it's your turn to compromise now -- opt for a better job in the same city.

romanticleopard asked, dear lg i made the biggest blunder of my life by telling wifey (less than 2 yrs marriage) about my past affairs as i believed my life partner must know all about me. i really am not in touch with any of my gfs and i never will cheat my wife. but frequently she imagine tht i like other girls more. all this causes a lot of tension and frustration as im sincere about my promise and hv given her no reason to suspect me. shes highly emotional and will just imagine situations and then feel sad and also hurt me deeply as I hate it when anybody suspect my good intentions. pls help me im desperate now

Love Guru answers, Look, I think you made the right decision telling your wife. Now tell her sternly enough that you told her the truth hoping that you would gain her trust and that she could accept it as a part of your past. She is behaving like a child, so tell her to get over it and behave mature or you will stop being honest with her. Say that if she had a past you would accept it too and you expect the same from her. Tell her that her behaviour will damage your marriage, not your past.

Love Guru says, Time's up, people! Email me at mailtheloveguru@rediffmail.com or then tune in again next week, same time, same place! Till then, good luck and God bless!