loverrass asked, I have a stable girlfriend... But i dont have much sex life... I have a friend in office who seems to be giving indication for having a no string attached affair. I am feeling enticed for it. Not sure what to do...

Love Guru answers, Don't take what you can get, please! You should be sleeping with the person you love, not just any random person who's willing to fall into bed with you! Talk to your girlfriend and tell her how you feel about your sex life.

viinod_bn asked, hi, i am 32 male and working in abroad. one of my senior aged 34 male got related with me. he loves me anything. we both are married and have happy life. he also have a 8 yr. gild child, he is emotionally very attached to me, now forcing me to be physically also, i dont want as i feel this is like gay, how can i suggest him, or can control him, i tried so many times, but failed, he says this feeling is good and cannot leave, kindly suggest me in details i am also disturbed, daily we fight, but he is no way to leave me. tell me how he can get rid of this feelings as this may trouble his family also. i dont have these male attraction feelings, suggest the remedy for both of us, as i dont want to leave him also vinod

Love Guru answers, You need to tell him very clearly that you are not gay and that while you care for him as a friend and as your boss, you cannot be physical with him! Explain that you don't want to cheat on your wife even if it is with another man and that he should feel the same way about this. Say a very firm 'no'! And don't be worried about him bullying you as far as office work is concerned, because you know he is gay and could easily tell his wife if you chose to.

vinky asked, Prem Guruji.... plss help i m very much depressed...i loved a girl while in college.. she too loved me.. but suddenly her marriage got fixed n she got married to some guy from her own relation last week.. i m unable to speak to people nor feeling good.. she called me after her marriage and she said that she wants to have an contact with me n also said she still loves me n got married due to pressure from parents.. i m feeling as if i lost everything..

Love Guru answers, Now that she is married, don't encourage her to have an extramarital relationship with you -- it would have been better if she had gone against her parents openly and married you instead of betraying them and her husband like this. Move on, because this girl doesn't have the guts to face the world and legalise your love.

MS Dhoni asked, Love guru do u think pre marital sex is fine?

Love Guru answers, It's not for me to say whether it is fine or not -- in every relationship, it is both partners who have to decide whether they want to get physically involved or wait for marriage. Everybody's outlook towards life and values are different.

sohail asked, i like a girl who is my friends cousin sister and her father know me very well and now he wanna to do his daughter marriage and is looking to well setteled guy.Tell me how can I express my feeling to him regarding her daughter.I am not well settled and still I am studying so,plz suggest me a goooooooood one.

Love Guru answers, Talk to him directly since he knows you so well. Tell him you want a chance to prove yourself and make his daughter happy. See what he has to say.

rs asked, Hi LG good afternoon....just off the track question...pls no hurt feelings for that...do u think u can answer and solve all the love related problems...dont u think one can solve his/her love related problems in oone's own way....its my personal view bcoz i think only the person who has undergone that problem knows better what went wrong in the process...others can give a view from a distance only.Isn't it?

Love Guru answers, Hi there. While you are right about deciding what's best for you, my dear, a lot of people lose their objectivity when in love. Some people who approach me can't talk to anyone else because they're too ashamed or feel like they'll get into trouble. Here they can freely admit to anything and seek help, knowing their identity is not revealed. All I'm doing is offering suggestions -- it's up to the individual whether he/ she wants to take my advice or not.

abc_1234 asked, hi , i am in a lot of dielemma , i loved a girl a lot but she cheated me because she chatted with other boys and told them that she doesnt have a bf.I was very committed to her during that time. She also use to phone and message other boys and flirt with them.Infact she sent 1200 sms to a particular guy in one month. She used to do these things when she thought i was not aware.When i told her these things , she has now become very committed to me.I dont love her now but i dont wanna break her heart. Also wenever i dont talk to her for 1 day , i feel hollowness in my life . Please help me sir.

Love Guru answers, I think you're in love with her still, or you wouldn't still be awating her calls so eagerly. Only your ego is leading you to say you don't love her. She abused your trust alright, but she didn't cheat on you. I think you need to tell her how hurt you are and that what she did was wrong. Also tell her that you can only learn to trust her now after she has proven herself. As to whether you want to stay in the relationship or not, that is entirely your choice. Do as you feel.

AASHEESH asked, HI LG.My wife no longer desires sex.What should i do? Should i file for divorce?

Love Guru answers, Isn't that drastic? You need to talk to her and work this out instead of filing for divorce over something like this! Marriage isn't just about sex! What if God forbid your partner was paralysed by an unfortunate accident and couldn't have sex anymore? You would abandon her? What kind of jerk are you?

Love Guru says, Time for me to go, folks! Feel free to email me at mailtheloveguru@rediffmail.com if I haven't answered your question and I'll write back as soon as possible! See you next week, same time, same place!