gopal asked, dear sir, i am 35 y old having 2 childern but recently i came to know that my wife had affair with somebody else i became frustrated.i also loved some other girl what should i do

Love Guru answers, You loved another girl after you found out about your wife or you did it anyway and later found out she was doing the same thing? Try to save your marriage -- talk honestly to your wife and the two of you can come to a joint decision as to whether you will both be faithful to each other and make the marriage work or then separate.

sheetu asked, love guru..I have an honest problem---I am in love with a person and we are in touch for 4years now. We are very emotionally dependent on each other and so we thought of getting married. His parens agreed but my parents are not accepting because our castes are different.Please clarify me just one thing--should I leave a person who gels with my ideas so well for customs and parents or am I doing right?

Love Guru answers, It's you who will be spending the rest of your life with your husband, not your parents. I would suggest you follow your heart but do so with your eyes open -- you should know that cultural differences can affect a marriage, but if both your fiance and you are willing to compromise on this, there should be no problem.

Anindya asked, hello..loveguru...i have lost my 4yrs love..she has sudenly left..me nd now i cant live..

Love Guru answers, Anindya, you can live. Be a strong person, not a coward. Start enjoying life again -- date new girls, hang out with your friends, travel, take a vacation. Everybody goes through heartbreak at some point in life, honey -- cheer up, you are not alone.

chatori asked, I am in relationship since july now we decided to marry, earlier i had confusion regarding caste now this time he geved me deadline to decision. I asked for more time he say "NO" after so long process of thinking i deny to be with him wiht low heart. could u tell me what would be the other possible case

Love Guru answers, He shouldn't have set a deadline like that and it would have been foolish to get married in less than a year. Also, this behaviour of his gives you a good idea of how dominating he is -- he wants you his way or not at all. I think it's wise that you said no.

ashi asked, My girlfrnd is 2 yrs elder then me.. i know our families are not going to accept us, more i try to keep distance more close we come to each other, what to do??

Love Guru answers, That's a stupid reason not to accept your marriage -- a two-year age gap isn't an age gap at all! Don't even think of breaking up over such a stupid reason!

deep asked, love guru's welcome address was for young lovers..but i am 48 years old and have a love problem..but i guess he would not answer a question from an oldie like me..

Love Guru answers, Of course I would, Deep...the greeting is just a manner of speaking, you are more than welcome to share your problem with me and I will help you.

Bhupender asked, Hi love guru, bhupender singh here, i love a girl from last three years, her name is shilpa but i can't say her that i love u. first we talk on phones everyday but from last one year she don't make a call to me. and i also afraid that whether she accept me or not. first we talk on phone about life and life partners till 11.30 PM. but now i afraid to phone her. So Love guru please help me what i do or what i not do

Love Guru answers, Have you ever met her? If not, it's not likely that you can say 'I love you' to her because you don't know her in person! In any case, call her and set up a date -- go for lunch together, or coffee. become close to her again and then get your guts together and tell her how you feel!

cancerian asked, Hi Love guru... heard lot of good things bout u... may be u can figure out my situation. I'm 27 Yrs, i had crushes number of times... but most of gals are with smone. My parents are looking for my life partner... but i'm totally confused whnever i meet smone i'm unable to take a decision... i have become little bit skeptic is thr any gal who is single. i blv in love at first sight... but none of the gals my parents are approaching, my heart is not accepting. pls tell me whr can i found true love... i need it badly in this time. Thanks for ur reply in advance.

Love Guru answers, Maybe you're trying too hard. The moment you make friends with a girl you fall in love with her. That's the wrong approach! Make friends with a girl exactly how you would with another guy. Then, if you truly feel for her take it forward, not otherwise! I think you don't like your parents' choices only because you want to fall in love and not go for an arranged marriage. But if you give one of them a chance and get to know her, you may fall in love despite it being arranged! Keep your mind open to the option.