rkm asked, Hi Guruji,I am 34 Years old male from Hyd,I am married I have one sis-in-law(wife sister) I like her very much i dont know really its love but if she ignores me i feel very bad on any matter. she is 10 years younger than me, I have never ever thought about any other girl in life except this girl, every day I have thoughts about her even some fantacies..its even affecting my career..pls advise.

Love Guru answers, And what about your wife? I wonder how you would feel if you had a brother and your wife felt that way about him? Makes your skin crawl, doesn't it? Which is why I would suggest you get over this foolish nonsense and start treating your sister-in-law like a sister should be treated. In any case, she'll be getting married eventually and will leave for her husband's house.

nicolas asked, hi love guru i had a problem in my love she dont love me because i am constant in my love she dont love me because i am her senior she dont love me because she is afraid of her family she dont love me because she dont know me she dont want to talk to me but i am in deep true love with her how can i overcome to make her follow my love

Love Guru answers, You can't, I'm sorry. You can't force her to fall in love with you, just as she can't force you to fall out of love with her. But you need to make up your mind and do just that. If you don't move on, you will only make yourself miserable.

Gora asked, Hi love guru, I got married this jan & my wife is pregnent & in recent test she's been positive for one of the disease which is only transmitted sexually & am tested negative. Seems she had some exposure ealier. what shoud i do?

Love Guru answers, I'm not sure what you mean when you ask what you should do? This disease can't affect your baby, can it? In any case, even if your wife had another boyfriend before she met you, what of it? Sometimes it happens that you love someone and get physical believing the relationship will last, but it doesn't. It's a very human mistake and not something anybody should be pulled up for.

pappu asked, Hi. Love guru. My friend loves a girl a lot. but she says she needs time to think. and now 1.5 yrs has been gone. still my friend loves her. she also talks to him. but says we are till now friends and will think about you later. so i just want to know does she really love her or she is just playing mind games?

Love Guru answers, She's not necessarily playing mind games, but she is taking rather long to make up her mind. Either she wants to pursue this or she doesn't. If she doesn't, she should tell him and they can remain friends, but at least he can move on with other girls that come his way.

maheshmarwari@rediffmail.com asked, hi i am mahesh i am in love i statrt loving good friend, she is also loving me from last 6 months, before 3 month my uncle has seen together us, then they tell there mother and father but they are not agree for our marrige she is only 17 yrs old. what to do

Love Guru answers, I don't blame them, she's way too young to get married and the two of you have only been seeing each other 6 months! And you haven't stated your own age. If you're older than 20, they have every right to be agitated about this situation.

kgaurav2k1 asked, hi love guru, I'm in love with a girl since last 3 years but never got that feeling from her till date..I love her like anything..She wants to get attention from me which i always give but if sometimes i failed due to some professional cause then she reacts very ugly and scold me roughly..She has also said if her parents will say yes to our relationship then she will marry otherwise won't..What should i do in this situation becasuse i love her too much

Love Guru answers, She's already told you that she won't marry you if her parents don't agree. She's also mean when she doesn't get what she wants. Do you really want to spend the rest of your life with this kind of person? I would suggest you break it off.

Jacques asked, Hi Guru, I am from Kolkata I am in love with a girl who i think also loves me. we live in the same locality and is my friends sister. I have never propose to her though i know she also loves me but the problem is that her marriage is fixed in her childhood. i am bit confused what to do now?

Love Guru answers, Parents are foolish to decide who their children should marry themselves. Why don't you both discuss your feelings first and then take the next step? Both of you could approach her brother for help convincing the family, since he's a friend of yours.

anurag asked, Hi Loveguru, I am married for last 2 years. It was an arranged marriage but we used to talk over phone and chat for almost one year before we got married. Recently I discovered that my wife had a steady boyfriend during that one year when we were trying to know each other. Before marriage my wife introduced me with that guy as her friend. She also expressed her desire to continue the friendship which I did not object as I trusted my wife's words. Now, I talked to my wife about my discovery of she telling me a lie about her friend. She accepted and apologized. But, I feel cheated and do not know how to handle myself.

Love Guru answers, I'm guessing she married you out of parental pressure even though she loved her boyfriend. This is why I'm forever telling youngsters to stand up to their parents rather than spoil their own and others' lives. It's up to you and your wife now whether you want to make your marriage work or not. Talk to her and ask her if she still loves this man and whether she wants to stay married or not. Also decide what you want to do and then make a fresh start, with or without each other.

Malchik asked, Hi, maybe this is silly, but not able to resist the temptation to ask, I am 33 and not able to commit to the idea of marriage, had many relationships which includes even Live-In's. When parents show me girls to get married, I always find an excuse not to like them. Right now in a relationship with a Russian girl and still thinking if this is right and is it allrite to commit to her? Any suggestions?

Love Guru answers, You need to commit to someone you love and can picture spending the rest of your life with. The rest is all irrelevant.

seeker asked, hello, I have been in love with girls who was my previous collegue in office. We have spent almost 1 year together. After that she left to USA for more study. After she has gone, i realized that i was in love with her. When the time we were with each other, she proposed me but as she was engaged with the boy with whom she has been last 2 years, i was not able to accept her proposal. But after she left, i realized that i was in love with her. Now it has been around 2 years completed after she left for USA, but still i m not able to forget her. I am realizing that i have done mistake by not accepting her proposal. We are now no more in contact. What should i do ? Please help me. Thanks

Love Guru answers, Well, seek her out and tell her how you feel. And don't delay any more, or you may be too late.