LG asked, I am a married woman, no kids yet. I am terribly in love with this other man(unmarried). I was looking for a divorce even before I met this new man in my life. But I dont have the courage to propose divorce to my husband(fear of family backlash)or marriage to the guy I am in love with (not ready to take a negative answer from him). What should I do?

Love Guru answers, Well, you have to be strong enough to face the consequences of your actions. If you would rather be alone and want to divorce your husband, go ahead. But don't do it on the premise that this other man will marry you or even reciprocate your feelings. Learn to make your own decisions independent of others -- stand on your own two feet.

s asked, hi, i was in love with a guy n we were engaged for nearly 10 yrs n after two days he is getting married i still cant forget him the day i heard the news of his marriage my heart stopped beating it feels like as if i dont have a heart at all. i cant see him with anyone else. but i know i have to see him i still love him. i knew this long before that he would not marry me but still i was in love n i supported him with my love but now because of his parents he left me. i cant forget him also wht should i do now.

Love Guru answers, My dear, I feel for you but you should have known better than to pursue a relationship when you knew it had no future. This man has no guts, he will live in his parents' shadow all his life and now so will his new wife. However much you love him, I'm sure you would have been most unhappy because his parents didn't approve of you and it would have shown in their attitude towards you. Take the support of friends, learn to enjoy life again. Take a break from work and travel, you will find that in time the wounds will all heal. You will meet someone who loves you and supports you provided you are open to it.

love2008 asked, Hi I m loving one girl from my Engg. College day she is still in my love. We have intercourse almost 2-3 times per week regularly. 6 months before she get married with one other boy in Delhi. Still she loves me and mange to come to me to make love. I don't know is it write or wrong? She do marrige due to pressure of her parents. Some time we think to run away. what we shoul do?

Love Guru answers, Well, she certainly shouldn't have married that other boy to start with! Why didn't she think of eloping with you before she got married? You both are adults. If she wants to leave her husband and marry you, she's free to do so. Make up your minds and tell her to be strong enough to face the consequences. If she had faced up to things in the first place, they wouldn't have been so bad -- at least she wouldn't have been married off!

JP asked, Luv Guru i am 29 years scientist in Jermany i am in luv with a girl last two year. i am going to marry her in Oct. now i came to know she has physical relation with another boy before our relation.I am very frustated bcoz she also agree that she has physical relation with that boy. I cant forget her past but she said that she cant live without me; Please suggest me should i marry her or not

Love Guru answers, Why can't you forget her past? You weren't in it! She loved someone else before you, so she gave herself to him. It was her decision and you were nowhere in the picture. And what are you, a 29-year-old virgin? I'm sure you've had your share of relationships too, so why can't your girlfriend have had the same? Stop being a typical male hyppocrite and deal with this in the mature manner it should be dealt with!

skldjsadj asked, dear LG. one of my friends is in luv with a Grahwaali girl.. however the boy is a Marathi. the girl is very fair..but the boy has a darkish complexion. consequently, they fear that if they marry...their kids will be like zebras. however, both of them are madly in luv with each other. i have suggested that they marry..and later adopt some children. what do u say ?? pls help LUV GURU..i have written to u many times..

Love Guru answers, Listen, either you are mentally retarded or you're trying to be witty -- let me tell you, you're not. Colour of skin has nothing to do with the marriage of two people, whether dark-complexioned or fair.

dimple asked, LG U R SUCH A LOSER

Love Guru answers, No dear, losers are people like you who have nothing better to do than interrupt others in serious conversation to get your two cents' worth in.

faridachoilawala asked, Hello loveguru, i am asking this question to for for the third straight week. I am a young female and i am dating a guy who is 8 yrs elder to me. till now everything is fine, but as we started to take our relationship to another level, My BF, who is now my fiancee, has put a strange condition. He is an MBA and works at a senior level with a MNC. i did not complete my graduation as i was not interested in studies. My fiancee is now saying that he will not marry till i dont complete my graduation. he says it a matter of 1 year and he will wait. But i do not want to study. my question is " is my BF using this as a ploy to dump me?"

Love Guru answers, Well, I think he makes sense. It's very important to be a graduate in this day and age and one year is not too long to wait before getting married. I think it's a wise decision -- nobody likes to study, but he's telling you for your own good.

mini asked, i am 23 yr gal old my bf leave me after he knows that i am preganent,qwhen my parents know about it they fix my marrriage with someone else.but i feel very bad about cheating that guy.should i tell about this to my future husband.

Love Guru answers, Are you still pregnant? Are you planning on deceiving your future husband into believing it's his child? If so, you should tell him the truth immediately. Also, even if you terminated your pregnancy, I do think that your future husband deserves to know about your past. If he accepts it, I think it's commendable on his part, if not, well, you're saved from marrying him.

coolguy asked, hii guru,,,,m a 29 yr old guy with somewt promiscuous personality,,,since im handsome m able to get many gals ,,tho i tell them this wud b a no string attached sorta reltnship unknowningly i get attracted to them n ve problem leaving them,,i vl b able to get over it very soon,,,shd i continue this or not ???

Love Guru answers, Don't you want a serious, committed relationship with a nice girl? You want to play Casanova, but you're the one getting emotionally attached! I would suggest you pursue a girl who you can't get out of your mind and who you've always had a soft corner for. Such an attraction is the threshold to love.