Do you have trouble voicing your feelings to the one you love?

In a chat with Get Ahead readers on June 12, the Love Guru addressed many such problems. For those of you who missed it, here's the transcript.

Love Guru says, Hi there, folks -- Love Guru is here and ready to help you with all your relationship problems! Let's get started!

sagar asked, hi...m sagar...22 yrs ....i start loving one of my very gud frend...bt she already has affair with someone else...now wen she use to talk to me i feels she has some problem with his bf n she is taking intrest in me bt none of us is saying anything to each other plz help me in this...

Love Guru answers, Maybe you need to take the initiative -- she already has a boyfriend so naturally she is more hesitant. but it shouldn't happen that she comes running to you when she fights with him and then goes back once things are sorted out. That wouldn't be fair to either him or you. Talk to her honestly and sort the issue out.

pari asked, I am a reasonably attractive woman. But I have not been able to find my soulmate. I feel that guys do not get attracted to me. Also, there is someone I have started liking. He happens to be an official client. How can I find out what he feels for me. And how can I approach him?

Love Guru answers, Everybody in the world is looking for a soulmate, darling...you sound young, don't worry you'll eventually meet him. As for your client, that's a rather sticky situation, isn't it? You need to pick up on small signs to find out if he feels the same -- has he ever asked you to lunch or dinner or even coffee? Does he flirt even a little with you? If so, he's interested and maybe you should meet him outside of the office and pursue this. If things are strictly professional from his side, I would suggest you don't pursue it at all, it could put your career in jeopardy.

ajay asked, One of my friend has lots of girl/women friend, but I am not able to attract girl/woman. In fact I think I dont have guts. Please tell me about guts, how to impress girls/women ?

Love Guru answers, The more you think about impressing women, the less you will impress them! Women like men who don't put on an act, who treat them as friends. If they feel like you're trying to hit on them, they will back away, they like men who don't make them feel uncomfortable. So just be yourself around women, treat them like you would your male friends and everything will work out.

jeet asked, hi i m in love with girl. but we r not of same community & cast. She does'nt want to go ahead because of this.Also she was in relation ship few days back which is broken now. She's not able to understand what to do? I want to marry her but she is not ready to commit...Pls advise

Love Guru answers, Whatever her reasons, her final answer is no. You need to accept that gracefully and move on.

neelam asked, hi I used to like a guy and was in love with him , his name was sunil , he got married with a girll and i still love him and always dream of having sex with him , pl guide me as to how to overcome this delima

Love Guru answers, You can overcome this by using your willpower. The guy is married now, you need to move on. So rather than remaining stuck in this rut, start meeting other guys and strive to forget about him. When you meet someone else you're attracted to, you'll know you're over him.

rita asked, I love "him" he is 10 years younger to me. I am married. I dont know what is this... it is not that I want him physically...but I like to talk to him ..I want him to be happy ..and I can do anything to make him happy...i tried not contacting him for sometime but its very difficult...what to do...I hope he gets married soon and live a happy life...but I will always love him from my heart.. is it wrong to love someone when u r married.. Radha also loved krishna..but it was not wrong than am i wrong..please tell me....

Love Guru answers, Where does your husband figure in all this? Don't you love him? You need to get your priorities in life right. You know this relationship is never going to work, so make a conscious effort to overcome it. Waiting till he gets married is not necessarily the answer. Also, you haven't said whether he's aware of your feelings for him or reciprocates them. If this is a one-sided thing, all the more reason for you to stop day-dreaming and bring your life into focus.

shaukat asked,  I have been married for 2 years, arranged marriage and we have 16 months old kid. My wife is very well read, qualified . But she is short tempered. She nags a lot about the past and we end up with fights over silly matters, both current and past. I always try to avoid by keeping quiet or going out, for the sake of my kid. And with each passing day, I feel, this marriage has no chance of revival because she is not willing to look at the +ves in me. I donot want a walk out ONLY for the kid's sake. . What is your advice regarding my situation ?

Love Guru answers, If you don't love your wife at all and would rather be separated but are in this marriage only for the child, you need to reconsider. Have you ever told her that her nagging has driven you to think like this? Maybe you should, it may give her the jolt she needs to stop this habit. You could also both see a marriage counsellor. In any case, it's better for a child to have divorced parents than parents who fight and scream at each other every day -- that's not a very healthy environment to bring up a youngster in.

Jackson asked, Hi Love Guru. Our was a love marriage but after four years it has become bitter marraige, we are fighting on small small issue. Our thoughts are not maching. we used to compromise initially but none of us want to compromise...

Love Guru answers, So one of you has to swallow the bitterness and compromise to start with, the other will soon follow suit. See a marriage counsellor if necessary.