thushara asked, i have probs my hus having relation with girl before our marraige and now i come ove rin my place for delivery and i have 0 days old son my hus never cares of me but i thought he will care my son but tat too is vain.instead of all i try to maintain the relation but everything their parents blame me.even they know about tat girl.i dont know wat to do?

Love Guru answers, If you're so unhappy, leave him. Tell him that either he gives up this girl or you're walking out -- it's something you should have done a long time ago. Stand up for yourself and be strong. You deserve better than a scumbag like this.

abcd asked, Hi love guru,i am 24 year old and i am having an affair with 32 year old married woman. She is enjoying it. I also enjoyed it in the begining. Now i dont want it to continue. But if is simply tell her i canot see her from now onwards, wht will she think..

Love Guru answers, What you were doing was wrong, so it's best to just end it. Tell her that she should be faithful to her husband.

sundaram asked, Hi LG!! This is Sundaram!! Can you tell me the depth of the affair if the girl asks the guy not to meet everyday,as she wants to spend time with her friends!!

Love Guru answers, There's no reason why you shouldn't spend time with your friends. That being said, most girls and boys like to introduce their partners to their friends so they can all hang out together!

ggg asked, if some girl doesn't picks up my phone,does that mean she is avoiding me?

Love Guru answers, Yes, it does! So stop pursuing her, please!

plsreply asked, I feel my wife prefers,njoys company closely with Causal, jovial and cool going natured boys. My nature is I am bit strict and serious minded...Sometimes I doubted her due to her nature...she said she will not do that again..but she continues the same...whts the solution for this..I am not able to express my love on her due to this..who shud change me or my wife..pls advice me...I follow ur advise...

Love Guru answers, What's wrong if she has male friends? You need to change your outlook towards life -- don't take things so seriously. She may enjoy the company of her male friends, but she chose to marry you! Don't try to stop her doing things unless they are wrong!

bunty asked, HI LG,I have dilemma in selecting a girl for marriage, here is the detailed story. I got two proposals one girl has completed her Btech and she is not working and other girl has just completed her Degree in fashion and working I liked the girl who has completed fashion degree but my parents fear that she may be bit fast and she may not care for you and they said they are not interested in that match and they are interested in Btech girl. Can you please suggest me whether I need to go as per my family members decision as I stand alone on that match and rest of my family members on Btech girl. Please do advise me.

Love Guru answers, Who's getting married here, your family or you? Just because a woman is working and earning she is classified as 'fast'? Stop being such a mamma's boy and grow up! Make your own decision and stick with it! I pity your future wife if she has to live in the same house as your family -- I would suggest you move out after marriage or risk your wife being made very unhappy by such dominating parents!

Archeologist asked, Hi Love Guru, How r u doing? There is an age gap of 9 yrs between my wife and me. Nowadays, i have seen she going with an young guy. I fear she may leave me. What to do? I feel bad about being treated like this. I dont want to loose her but hate being left like this. should i leave her before she leaves me? She is very beautiful than any miss world. Hoping you would reply. PS: What do i do if she continues despite my warnings

Love Guru answers, Going with some young guy, as in? Maybe he's just a friend of hers! Why don't you just talk to her honestly instead of trying to protect your ego and walk out without knowing the truth? If she's doing anything wrong, she's the one who should be ashamed here, not you!

55 asked, I want to have sex with my gf.but to obtain a condom.shy to approach a shop

Love Guru answers, Listen, just march up to a chemist and ask for them very confidently. If you're uncomfortable going to local, neighbourhood stores where you are more or less known, go to a chemist a little farther away from where you live. All sexually active young men buy condoms, you won't be the first! Just be confident and don't behave in a silly manner. Remember, the salesmen must be selling them to lots of men every day and you are not the first customer they've had! Please be safe always --better to suffer mild embarrassment than contract an STD or get your girl pregnant!

Love Guru says, Well, that's all for today, folks! If I didn't take your question, please email me at mailtheloveguru@rediffmail.com and I'll get back to you as soon as possible! See you next week, same time, same place!