Pranathi asked, I am suffering with a psycho he is not loving me but not leaving me from 5 years. This fellow is happily married and abusing me. help me love guru please

Love Guru answers, What do you mean abusing you? Go to the police, or seek the help of your parents. This sounds serious to me. You may also consider securing some proof (with a hidden camera or something) and approaching his wife with it. Whatever you want to do, don't do it alone. Make sure you are protected.

Anshi asked, hi LG,i have made frnds with d guy i really like n he likes me 2 which i feel thru his smal gestures smtimes n though its a long distance one v talk ovr d fone almost daily..he says he realy likes me but then he is not proposed me yet..he has said he loves me twice when he ws drunk but the oder day he says he ws drunk n remembers nothing..wen he ws in town 2 attend a wedding he dint evn bother 2 meet me or speak 2 me...and coz he is not sayin nethn 2 me directly i cant evn question him..what do i do..how do i know if he realy likes me n wans 2 b wid me..shud i continue wil it b worth??

Love Guru answers, Talk to him honestly. Tell him that it's high times he stops playing childish games with you -- either he admits how he feels about you instead of behaving like a coward, or then you'll just treat him like any other friend and move on with your life. See what he has to say.

hello1 asked, hi LG, i got married b4 4 years. From beginning the things were not fine as he started beating me and scolding me like nething by reminding me my past affair. The past break-up was not my fault but still i tolerated all his beating and scolding in the hope that one day he will understand me. But things started to be worst when my in-laws came with us to live and they supported him. Finally i had to live my home and had to come back to my parents' home. Now after one year, i m earning good and during this time he never show ne emotions related to me. I must say that i have spend the best of period of my life with him and the worst time too I have seen with him. Now our divorce is final. But still m very confused. m i taking right step?

Love Guru answers, Yes, you are. Your ex-husband verbally and physically abused you! And no amount of times he made you happy can make up for that! Before you get into your next relationship, make sure to tell your partner all about your past honestly and say that you won't tolerate him holding that against you at any point in time!

rina asked, PLS HELP ME - i am 17 years. one night when my parents were out, my uncle (mausa ji) who is 38, had sex with me forcibly and after that he threatened me if i tell about it to any one. now he has started coming to our house frequently mostly when my parents are out and forces me to have sex with him. this is going for the last 4 months. HOW I CAN GET OUT OF THIS SITUATION. PLS HELP.

Love Guru answers, Rina, you HAVE to tell your parents about this and approach the police! I don't know how you've endured it for four months! Set a trap for him with the help of the elders in your family so that they can catch him red-handed! And his threats are only to make sure you keep quiet -- don't let him get away with it!

luv asked, Hi LG, My girlfriend gives more importance to her work then me. We hardly get time to spend wid each other. I have observed that she always gives her work first priority. Even on weekends she is hardly spends an 1 or 2 wid me. We are dating since 3yrs now. This behaviour annoys me alot. Please suggest wot shud I do?

Love Guru answers, Tell her how you feel. Also say that you can understand her passion for her work, but at the end of the day, it's just a job. It is not meant to substitute for people you love. She should leave work at the office every Friday and not bother with it on the weekends.

vicku asked, Hi LG, I loved a girl and she too loved me. suddenly she left me and went with another guy. i got irrtated because of her distrust and scoled her. now, after 6 months she is now telling that what she did was wrong and asking me to accept her. She also had close physical relationship with that guy. she wants me to forgive her now and marry me. she is also hurrying me. Since i loved her truly, i can't think of another girl. also i cannot forget the way she behaved and destroyed my trust in her. i'm confused. please help me

Love Guru answers, Why did she leave you? Ask her that -- was it only because of her attraction to the other boy? Or were you both having problems with each other and his presence was only an added factor? If things were wrong with your own relationship, you may want to work on those issues first, before making any commitment. To forgive her is one thing -- if you feel you can, go ahead. But don't rush into marriage. Wait at least a year or more to see if she meant what she said.

JAS asked, HI, LOVE GURU, THIS IS 5TH TIME I AM IN TROUBLE.ME JASWINDER KAUR, U KNOW I ASKED U ABT MY PROBLEM THAT MY FRD WANT ME TO GET INVOLVE IN LESBIAN RLATION,AS PER UR ADVICE I SUGGESTED HER NOT TO THINK OF THIS BUT SHE HAD STOP CARING ABOUT ME & NOW ITS HURTING ME BCOZ I ALSO LIKE & LOVE HER & ALSO DONT WANT TO LOOSE HER, TELL ME HOW DO I DO CAN SOME TIME MEANS OCCASSIONAL LESBIAN SEX IS HARMFUL?I DONT WANT TO LOOSE HER AT ANY COST?

Love Guru answers, Jaswinder, a true friend would not insist on taking physical advantage of you! No, lesbian sex is not harmful, but you'll be cheating on your husband and undermining your marriage! Is this woman worth cheating on the man you love? And tell this woman that you love and care for her only as a friend! If she can't accept that, she's pathetic and desperate -- forget about her! If she thinks of you as a friend at all, instead of as a sex partner, she'll come around eventually!

Vivrk asked, Hi.. I was in a relationship with a girl since i ws in 6th std.. we were together for 8 yrs.. and broke up 2 yrs back.Because her father didn't want us to marry. She loved me. She took a promise from me that i will never try to call her, and so we lost touch. i was devastated, and never had a relationship since the last 2 yrs. even she was as i found out from a common friend. now she is engaged, against her will. and is due to get married in July. Should i talk to her ? and break the promise.?

Love Guru answers, Yes, you can. Explain to her that she can't go through her whole life taking decisions that will please everybody but herself. Sometimes you need to stand up for what you believe is right, even if you have to go against your parents. If her parents have any common sense, they'll eventually come around. If not, at least the person she'll be spending the rest of her life with -- you -- will keep her happy.

Bali asked, Hi Guru, I am married. Since married, I & my wife live in overseas. I have dad,mum,brother,sister and I love all of them. They are not staying with me. My wife doesn't like any of them. She is always telling me that he is bad/she is bad and I can't take it. Please advise.

Love Guru answers, She doesn't live with them and she has so many issues? Tell her that it's not like you're forcing her to live with them, so she shouldn't have such a big problem. Also remind her that now you are married, your family is hers and vice versa. How would she feel if you kept gossiping about her parents and siblings? If she doens't stop, you start doing the same and ask how she enjoyed a dose of her own medicine!