Gthree asked, 2 of my coullegues are very much attracted with me and the both try to see me meet me and, I am sure both need to have some relation with me. We 3 r married for more than 15-18 yrs, enjoying happy married life. Is this an attraction for sex only?

Love Guru answers, Yes, it is -- so don't pursue it.

gogo asked, just getting married in few days..We both r bit scared...scared about just, that will we able to go on well together..uptill now, all's well. We know each other for 6 months or so, never had any difficulties. She has a understanding nature, like mine. How to over come this unknow fear factor?> Plz. guide

Love Guru answers, Everyone gets cold feet before the big day! Don't worry, what you're feeling is very normal. Just promise each other to compromise -- don't be stubborn, either of you. If there's a disagreement, one of you should give in and the next time there's a disagreement, the opposite person should give in. That way, both of you will be happy.

payel asked, i am 19 yr old girl.i married last yr thats jan 2007.i am student .ours a joint family.for some 3 months back my mother in law just forcing me to have a baby as she says after marriege itis good to have baby soon.but as i am student so i thing i still have a time for this want to postpone for atlest 2 yrs.i spoke to my elder bhabhis they understand my problem.my husband is youngest in family so my mother in law takes extra care of me and my husband .so she is not that bad at all.but my husband is very supportive he somehow convince my mother in law for sometime.as my exMS r due in april i get tense due to this.can,t concentrate on my studies.i don,t know what should i do.its just an arrange marriege.sometime i start hating my parents for marrying me early and .should i divorce my husband and finish my studies.than married again.guru ji is family is more imp or studies.is it good to leave family family for studies.plzzz help me

Love Guru answers, You're too young to have a child. These narrow-minded old people have thier own opinions about these things. I'm sure your mother-in-law means well, but this is not a decision she should be making at all! Of course you should be pursuing your studies at this age! Tell her and your husband flat out that you will only finish your studies and then have a child. It's important to you and your future. Don't compromise on it.

muskan asked, i m not leaving wwith my husband b'coz of joint family problem my in-laws din't want me back tht's y they did 2nd marriage of my husband. i hav a son wht to do

Love Guru answers, Did your husband divorce you before he got married for the second time? If the marriage is not legal, drag him and his family to court. Even if it is legal (in case he is a Muslim) you can go to court and demand a divorce. He will have to pay you money to support the child by law.

SachinK asked, Hi ! I'm 32 yr old man and my wife is 27 yrs. She loves me from the core of heart but many a times her views seem impractical to me. She is quick to trust people whereas I'm reclusive. I understand that's based on one's experience...But at times the same strangers whom she trusts so much backstab and lead to my annoyance..I shout, pacify and advise her...she seems to understand and vows not to repeat the mistake...The trend goes on for 4 years now..(since we married)... Is this everybody's life...?

Love Guru answers, Look, it's obvious that you two are very different people. So what? You love each other and balance out each other's natures. But you do need to sit her down and explain that while it's okay for her to become fond of new friends, she should not trust them until they have proven themselves. Trust is only earned over a period of time and those she meets are playing her for a fool and taking advantage of her nature.

AshishSrivastava asked, I am married to a gal 12 years elder to me.Initially things were ok but now she is not feeling ok with me as we are in same proff but she is in very senior position and ofcource her's salary is also very high so every time i have to findout my existance in my own house.I want my dignity and ofcource i want her aswell.Please help me out .

Love Guru answers, She shouldn't be insulting you. When she was your age, she was probably earning the same amount as you! Tell her not to bring the office into your home and you'll both be happy.

andy_sam asked, Hello. We lost our only child in a tragic accident a year and half ago. From then my wife has become a recluse and refuses to start life again. I have tried my level best by arranging short breaks, holidays and some romantic moments but of no avail. It has been long since we have made love and my attempts to talk to her about a second issue has always been put off. Can you help in giving me a solution to my problem? Thanks in advamce.

Love Guru answers, You have my sincere condolences -- it's the worst thing in the world to lose your child. But I agree with you, you need to get your life back on track. Your wife is yet to overcome the trauma of losing your little one. One suggestion is for her to interact with someone else who has been in the same position and has managed to recover from the tragedy. You could also help by buying books etc on the subject -- many young parents have written on the subject of losing a child. Talk to her about it also -- say that you have the rest of your lives to live and it's time for wounds to heal. The scar will always remain but it won't hurt quite so much anymore. Also, if necessary, you can speak to a psychologist on how to deal with your wife.

Love Guru says, That's all for today, people -- if I've been unable to answer your question, do write to me at mailtheloveguru@rediffmail.com and I'll get back to you as soon as possible. See you next week!