ashima asked, hi lg my bf loves me no doubt...we share an intimate relationship...planin marriage very soon but in his recent trip to bankok he went to massage parlour n got himself serviced...thou he himself confessed n regretted...even went thru a physological disorder thinkin he has cought aids even after tests jus bcoz i was not with him...but the d day i forgave him he was ok....but now i m not able to get over this...i fell betrayed at times....shud i trust him is it ok to forgive him....i dont know what to do

Love Guru answers, Well, he messed up bigtime. But he was honest with you and begged for forgiveness too. Tell him that it is still difficult for you to accept, but he will have to earn your trust again. And if he ever betrays you again, it's over. If you think it's not in you to forgive so soon, call off the relationship and take a break for some time. It will put things in perspective for you. And he will suffer sufficiently during that time for him never to repeat such an act.

sukant asked, i love a girl from my childhood.but she didn't know that thing. I purpose the girl 2 years ago.but she didn't give any answer to.She always give me excuses but not give answer.What will i do?

Love Guru answers, Take a hint, my friend -- the answer is 'no'. But she doesn't want to hurt your feelings outright, so she's giving you excuses. Appreciate that she was kind enough to spare your feelings and move on.

guru2 asked, i have problem. I got engaged to a girl(proposal came from parents). After talking to her few times i thought i had found girl whom i wanted. our goals and priorities in life were same.our thinking are similar. I was quite happy. Then sometimes she used to avoid me. then asked whether she lying me about something. she told no. then I ignored that. then one day her boyfriend(old) called me and told me that they had physical relationship(he wanted to cancel the marriage). i was very davastated. they even talked(met few times) after we got engaged. i asked why did they talk. she told me she could not stop talking immediately and she thought i wont know about it. another thing she told me that her old boyfriend forced her to talk with him(she was worried that he might told me about her affair with him). they did not get married since her parents wont agree for that marriage. when she started the affair she knew that it wont end in marriage and told the same to her boyfriend.

Love Guru answers, If you like the girl and want to spend the rest of your life with her, don't let this stop you. So she has a past. Who doesn't? The important thing is that it belongs there -- in the past. But does this girl want to marry you or does she still have feelings for that boy? If she wants to marry you, go ahead. If she's being forced into it by her parents, I'd suggest you call it off.

shikha asked, hello love guru actually my husband doubts me , i was relation with any one before marrige. so this is the main cause of our personal tension. But slowly -2 every thing is ok , but now my husband says I care You but not love you. what can i do ?

Love Guru answers, Tell him to stop all this drama and that you'll walk out on him if he doesn't love you! Tell him you'd rather be divorced than spend the rest of your life with someone who doesn't love you. I think he'll toe the line pretty fast if you threaten him instead of being threatened by him.

suji asked, Hello LG, i am writing 2 u 4 d 1st time..its been 7 yrs since my marriage & v have a 6 yrs daughter...still v are not very close 2 each other. My husband has a reserve nature and is a mama's boy. But he shows tis nature only 2 me...he is not d same wit his mother. he talks 2 his mother but has no time 4 me. i hve no objection in his caring 4 his mother but he does'nt shows his care and love 2 me. what should i do, pls help.

Love Guru answers, Suji, you need to confront your husband about how he behaves with you, but don't bring his mother into the conversation. Say that you feel ignored and lonely and that you wish he would open up to you as a husband should to his wife. If you get along well with your mother-in-law, why don't you confide in her about this problem? She may be able to talk some sense into him herself.

harish asked, Hi Love Guru,we two were in love,but she was a brahmin, so assuming her family will not accept our rlationship she got engaged with a boy of her father's choice. But somehow bcz of our old relationship her engagement didn't worked.Still we like each other, wht should we do.

Love Guru answers, Assumption is the mother of all -- well, I'll say hang-ups! Harish, you didn't even try to ask her parents about you two. What if they say yes? And if they say no, you're still two adults who can make your own decision.

Rihd asked, Love Guru....Am not able to find a girl...please tell me how should I go about this....the ones are find are either too old or too young for me...sob sob

Love Guru answers, Stop being so concerned with age and see how you bond with them at a mental level. Age is secondary when you are compatible and in love --that is not to say, of course, that you fall for a teenager or a 55-year-old single mom!

Love Guru says, Time's up, folks! Write to me at mailtheloveguru@rediffmail.com and tune in next week, same time, same place! Goodbye!