pil asked, i want to propose a girl who is 5 year younger to me...She don't like me by expression...how can i propose her ..she is in my tution class

Love Guru answers, If she doesn't like you, forget it. You'll be rejected without a doubt.

san asked, a bastard cheated my sister, an angel of a human being and two timed with her and another girl. and he is not even shamed by his acts. why dosen't god punish such people....

Love Guru answers, San, what goes around comes around, but not always when you're waiting for it to happen. Don't wait for his punishment or think of punishing him -- somewhere down the line he will have to receive the same treatment he dealt out to your sister. But that's his life. You stop agonising over it and take the high road.

neha asked, what if one's mother try to pursuade her daughter to stay with her instead of her husband when the mother loses her husband. what if for this she takes advantage of the fact that her daughter is afraid of delivering and doesnt advice her to be pregnant. instead she keeps quite and is worried that if daughter is pregnant, she will lose the support form daughter?

Love Guru answers, Neha, the daughter in this situation should realise what the mother is doing. She needs to assure her mother that she's always there to lend her support, but at the same time cannot put off her own life and marriage to stay with the mother. Because that's not fair.

heartburn asked, I have been in relation for past 4 years....me and my gal were very serious from day one and always thought about marrying each other....she always told me i was the first affair she had n stuff and for me also it was the same....but recently i found out she had atleast 2 more past affairs ..this has really disturbed me and i keep thinking about it all the time...what should i do? as she doen't like to discuss her past

Love Guru answers, I can understand you being upset that she lied to you, but I hope you're not upset that she was in two relationships before you. Tell her honestly that you're disappointed in her not being able to trust you enough to tell you about her past. She should discuss it with you honestly and you should graciously accept it, but tell her that you won't accept her lying. Lack of trust destroys a relationship.

heartburn asked, I have been in relation for past 4 years....me and my gal were very serious from day one and always thought about marrying each other....she always told me i was the first affair she had n stuff and for me also it was the same....but recently i found out she had atleast 2 more past affairs ..this has really disturbed me and i keep thinking about it all the time...what should i do? as she doen't like to discuss her past

Love Guru answers, I can understand you being upset that she lied to you, but I hope you're not upset that she was in two relationships before you. Tell her honestly that you're disappointed in her not being able to trust you enough to tell you about her past. She should discuss it with you honestly and you should graciously accept it, but tell her that you won't accept her lying. Lack of trust destroys a relationship.

mysticalguy asked, I'm in love with my penpal from Philippines, if I marry her what will be the legal procedures to bring her to India, Will be grateful to you if you can help me out??

Love Guru answers, You're taking a big risk wanting to marry someone you've never met. Has she ever been to India? Does she know what it's like to live here? What if she's unhappy and wants to go home? I would suggest asking her to come visit you first, at least for 2-3 months. Once she has a proper feel of the place and you both know each other in person, take the step. Consult a lawyer who will help you with the wedding procedure.

abhijit asked, My wife and me have had no sexual relationship for about two years except once or twice. We stay inseparate bedrooms. We are together only due to our 8yr son. Should we continue or go for divorce.

Love Guru answers, Abhijit, you both need to discuss that with each other, not with me. Why are you both living such separate lives? Why not try to make the make the marriage work? Solve your problems together, see a counsellor if necessary.

Love Guru says, My time here is up, folks! See you next week! In the meanwhile, write to me at mailtheloveguru@rediffmail.com. Cheers!