Are you struggling to get over someone you loved and lost?

In a chat with Get Ahead readers on August 21, the Love Guru addressed many such problems. For those of you who missed it, here's the unedited transcript.

Love Guru says, Welcome to the Love Guru chat, people! Time to address all those affairs of the heart!

amit asked, i have been into affair for 3 yrs now gal is marrying sumone else already engagement is done im still ready for her now wat shud i do

Love Guru answers, Amit, you're ready for her but she's not ready for you! If she was planning to be with you, she wouldn't have gotten engaged to someone else! Let go, it's time -- you'll hurt for some time, but if you have a positive outlook and enjoy life, you'll be fine soon. Don't pine away for someone who can't stand up to adversity for your sake!

MMMM asked, GA LG, Is ik okay to do time pass affair with girl from both side. I have the same with one girl from last 3 years. Both r ready for no marriage.

Love Guru answers, If both your girlfriends are fine with no commitment and you are too, then it's an understanding between you. But do they know about each other? Because mind you, in theory it sounds fine -- but someone always gets emotional and then ends up getting hurt. Consider yourself warned.

jinal asked, hie this is jinal here i m in love wid one of of my frnd but how wud i know that he like me or no?

Love Guru answers, If he behaves with you like you behave with him, you'll know! Does he like spending all his free time with you? Does he call you on the phone as much as you call him? Does he compliment you often? There's your answer.

amitta asked, Hi its been ages we have been married however the fights dont end..its always about small things ..however after the fight its always me who talks about how fights are a normal love chore while he always says these lead to break ups ..is there something i am mising

Love Guru answers, Both of you don't seem to be on the same page in your relationship. He doesn't sound too sure of it. You do. Make a pact -- since it's only about small things that you argue most of the time, take turns giving in! Compromise will make things much easier. And yes, it is common for lovers to bicker, unless you are overly argumentative and your husband is tired of it.

YOGESH CHADHA asked, I HAVE AN AFFAIR WITH GUJARATI LADY FOR LAST 3 YEARS. BOTH OF US ARE MARRIED AND HAVE CHILDREN . WILL IT WORK OUT IN FUTURE?

Love Guru answers, How can it work out when both of you are committed -- and I use that term loosely, since your behaviour proves otherwise -- to two different partners? Why are you cheating on your spouses and families like this? Either come out into the open and get together or then break things off. This is not fair on your wife, her husband nor the kids. Stop trying to have your cake and eat it too!

as asked, Hi! lg, i m love a girl & may be she also, she talk on phone but not like to meet. she met on net? what should i do?

Love Guru answers, Be cautious! These no-meeting relationships almost always spell trouble! To get to know someone you need to know him/ her on a personal level. Ask her why she doesn't want to meet you.

jyo asked, I have one doubt? One of my old frnd proposed me ? Due to some caste problem his parents are not ready? I am now in a new job . He also went for MBA. Past 2 months he didn't contact me last time when we talked he said he need time for final desicion. But 2 months over he didn't call? Now I don't know he will come back or not?

Love Guru answers, He proposed and now he needs time? So what, you'll sit around waiting till he decides what's best for him? And what about you? You make a decision -- and I'd strongly suggest leaving him -- and inform him! This guy doesn't seem like he has any backbone.

shsgs asked, I am in love with him which he to is aware but unable to express the same. I am growing old and fear of future. Tell me how do I?

Love Guru answers, What are you waiting for, then? Move on with your life and find someone who can express their feelings for you!