shwets asked, my boyfriend of four years cheated on me.he was having intimate chats with his old friend who is married now. he denies anything wrong and says he loves me only but i cansense smthn wrong.i am in pain help

Love Guru answers, How do you know he was having intimate chats? Did you catch him or do you suspect him? If you know for sure, 100 percent that he did, only then should you make such accusations. If, on the other hand, you have only a feeling that something is not adding up, tell him that you don't trust him because you can sense that something is amiss. Tell him to talk honestly and speak the truth, because if he lies now and you discover it later, you will not forgive him.

hits asked, I love a girl. See her regularly every morning on railway station. We have no friendship. I proposed her on telephone. After that I tried to talk with her on the railway station, but she denied. Sometimes see also looks towards me (atleast once in a day). But, she does not talk with me. Sometimes she ignores me. Does she love me ? How can I find this out ?

Love Guru answers, For the thousandth time -- you CANNOT CANNOT CANNOT love somebody you don't know! It's just an attraction! You're a stranger to her! You just told her you love her! Give me one good reason why she should give you the time of day! If she is ignoring you and doesn't want to talk to you, stop pushing it. And next time around, don't be so tactless! Love blooms when you know a person well, not just because you see someone attractive and decide to pursue her!

rabindra asked, a girl loves me but she is married left by her husband, what to do

Love Guru answers, Rabindra, she should file for divorce if her husband left her. Then you're free to start up a relationship.

TalkIT asked, Hi, I like my friend's sis and would like to let her know of that. But I'm afraid of a NO from her as that could potentially sopil my friendship with my friend. How do I handle this?

Love Guru answers, Tell your friend first about how you feel for his sister. It will be appreciated that you approached him/ her first. Tell him/ her that you value the friendship and wouldn't do anything to damage it. Also say that you can't help the way you feel for the sister. If your friend has any sense, he/ she will help you.

LoveChela asked, I am married but now my ex girlfriend wants to have sex with me. Tell me what to do?

Love Guru answers, Ever heard the word 'no'? Use it, spineless wimp! Think about your wife asking the same question -- 'My ex wants to have sex with me. What should I do?' That's not the sort of question married people are even supposed to think about!

PROB asked, I had relation for last one year and 6months with a gal. I dont want to extend it. I want a break up. But she is nt listening to my word. She is doing so rubbish thing to my life. I am very tensed. She is killing me from inside. I dont want to be in any kind of touch with her. Plz suggest. She is going out of control. Everyday things are getting more and more complex for her activities. But she didnt informed her parents still now. From my side my parents are involved and my cousins and frnds. All are saying to stop. But She is out of our control. Plz suggest.

Love Guru answers, Try telling her gently that you don't want to be in the relationship anymore and that nothing she can do or say will change your mind. Apologise, but tell her you can't help how you feel. If she still continues acting crazy, tell her parents or the police if necessary. Her behaviour is not your problem once you've opted out of the relationship.

king asked, Hi Love Guru.. Im in a serious problem.. i love this 17yrs girl a lot and she too loves me.. she lives with her mother.. her mother is divorced and is only 34yrs old.. she is very beautiful and i was attracted alot to her, in one of my trips to my gf house, she wasnt there, but her mother was there and one thing led to another and we ended in bed together.. im really guilty of what happened and her mother is not even bothered and appears to be compleltely normal about this.. Now what has happened is my father saw her and he too attracted to her and wants to leave my mother for her and daily has big fights with my mother. i think they both slept too.. and if she becomes my new mother, i know she will want to sleep with me all the time.. i want to confess this all to my Gf.. what shud i do? im loosing my sleep over this and becoming stressed out.. pls help.. :((

Love Guru answers, I can appreciate that you want to be honest with your girlfriend, but you need to accept that she might a) refuse to believe you and b) never want to see your face again. She will be justified, too -- you should have thought of how much you love her when you were falling into bed with her mom. As for your dad, tell him what happened between her mom and you. The old fool doesn't know what he's setting himself up for. If he still wants your wily mother-in-law, your mom shouldn't fight him. Let him go, life will teach him a lesson eventually for being such a cheat. As for your own situation, you can either live with the guilt of what you have done, or tell her the truth and come clean. But don't be surprised if she breaks it off.

dave asked, Me and MY Wife wants to introduce a third person in the bedroom.. do you think India this practice is safe

Love Guru answers, I don't know what you mean by 'safe' -- healthwise, you can have the person take tests for a clean chit. But is this going to be healthy for your marriage? People are in relationships because they signify commitment and monogamy. Your marriage seems to be lacking in both.