Madhusudan asked, Hi this for the first time i am on coming online. I am 30 years old male I am not able to find any girl in my life. Pls advise

Love Guru answers, Probably because you're looking too hard! You can't meet every new girl and think, haan, I should try for her! You need to learn how to make friends and then if a particular girl shows interest, pursue her slowly. If you treat women you meet like regular friends -- read, like other guys -- you'll find that they don't reject you so quickly.

vikas asked, i l ove guru i vikas of 28 yrs. I really got blow when i lost my love for which i was committed for long 7 yrs . I left everything for her but she let me down . Actualy she is very found to her mother and her mother denied my relation ship. Now she is married t other guy which is my family friend. I m trying to concentrate on my work but i cann;t . I m geting nightmares now a days day by day i m dieing . Pls just me that should i go for any other relationship whom i do not know .

Love Guru answers, No Vikas, don't get into any relationship on the rebound. It must be hard that she married your friend, but remember that you don't want to be with a person who can let you down so badly in any case. Consider yourself lucky. Enjoy life for now -- take a vacation, meet up with pals, work hard. In no time you'll find yourself free of pain and you'll find yourself ready for a new woman.

vikas asked, i l ove guru i vikas of 28 yrs. I really got blow when i lost my love for which i was committed for long 7 yrs . I left everything for her but she let me down . Actualy she is very found to her mother and her mother denied my relation ship. Now she is married t other guy which is my family friend. I m trying to concentrate on my work but i cann;t . I m geting nightmares now a days day by day i m dieing . Pls just me that should i go for any other relationship whom i do not know .

Love Guru answers, No Vikas, don't get into any relationship on the rebound. It must be hard that she married your friend, but remember that you don't want to be with a person who can let you down so badly in any case. Consider yourself lucky. Enjoy life for now -- take a vacation, meet up with pals, work hard. In no time you'll find yourself free of pain and you'll find yourself ready for a new woman.

monika asked, Hi i am Monika.i am divorcee with two kids age 40.i am in love with one guy age 31 since last 4 years.he really loves me even he is married.he never try to use me.but he went to USA since past one year and he is in touch with me and told me that he want to earn lot of money for me.he gave me 3 lacs Rupess also.should i trust this guy? please LG tell me else i will die.

Love Guru answers, What is with everyone talking about dying? Vikas says he's dying because his girl married his friend, you say you're dying. Remember that there are a lot of people out there far more unfortunate than you -- people without a roof over their heads, without food, without loving children to ease the pain of a failed relationship! Your boyfriend is married and nine years younger than you. So what if he gave you money? Has he initiated divorce proceedings against his wife to be with you? Has he said he'll leave her for you? Don't blindly trust anyone because they give you money. Ask him for straight answers and tell him he needs to act on them -- now!

srinivas asked, hello Love Guru, Please reply my question. I am married man for 3 years, but we have no child. although we didnt take it seriously. Once i had to go to Bangkok for business trip leaving my wife alone. When i came back home before schedule, i knocked the door, it took a lot of time to open. when i entered inside, i saw my wife's colleague there and their expression were anixous when they faced me. although i dont daught the integrity of my wife, but it is not going from my mind. i am feeling like kill her or commit suicide. please help.

Love Guru answers, Stop talking nonsense about murder and suicide -- it's just stupid. Because your colleague came over when you weren't there you'll kill your wife? Or commit suicide? I know 10-year-olds who think more logically than you. Does this colleague drop by often? Is he a good friend of yours? And are you possessive by nature, not liking your wife to be alone even with friends and family? If your answer to all these questions is yes, I'm guessing there's nothing to worry about. In any case, why don't you just ask your wife straight out why they looked so anxious? And ask what he was doing over when you were away? And why it took so long to answer the door? If you don't doubt her integrity, why are you thinking overtime?

Angel asked, I got into deep love with a women with a 7 year old kid and living with her husband. She menionmted that she does not love her husband and has serious porblems with him. We wanted to get married but since I came from US klast year things went from Bad to worst. She sayd that the kid would not agree and hence she cannot live with me. I love her badly want to marry her and raise the kid? Please advise

Love Guru answers, The child is 7 years old and she cannot build her life around his reasoning at that age. No kid wants to see his parent with somebody else, but if she wants to leave her husband and is staying on only for the child, it makes no sense. Even at this age he probably realises his parents are not in love. If, however, she wants to make her marriage work and patch things up with her husband, you shouldn't stop her -- you'd be breaking up a family. The decision is completely hers to make.

Vishal asked, Hello ! Love Guru ... Please let me know the trick to know whether the person with whom I am talking on phone is really interested in me for commitment for life ... please reply to my query. Thank you.

Love Guru answers, There is no 'trick' to know what someone on the phone means. It's very likely you're being tricked by the person on the other end! Only relationships that have started out in person usually work. Till you meet the person -- regularly -- there's no way of ascertaining anything.

raj asked, hello Love Guru, Please reply my question. I am married man for 3 years i am having one kid,my wife doent want to stay with me because he doent like that place she is staying in her mothers house for past one year wat to do?

Love Guru answers, She doesn't like which place? Your house, or are you living in a different city? in any case, she's unhappy with the living arrangement, not with you. Talk things out and move to a place where you both will be happy.