sum asked, i was in love with a girl who got married to a different man. I know she was in love with me but the problem was that i could not express her. By the time i knew it was too late. However i am married now. But i still get her memories even if i try a lot to erase. help

Love Guru answers, You didn't have the guts to approach her, but someone else did. On top of that, you got married yourself! What's wrong with you? You've never even had a relationship with this woman -- she's just someone you had a crush on and now you're blowing it up to gigantic proportions because you know you can't have her! Grow up, for heaven's sake and focus on your own wife!

Neel asked, Hi!! we were good friends share most of our difficulties but dont know when our friendship turned in to love i proposed her she is elder to me she never answere me but never said no as well things were fine till i expressed my desire to gift her lingere thought she woudl love the idea thought it was romantic but result was excatly opposite please help me to ptch up..

Love Guru answers, Rule number 1 of dating -- NO INAPPROPRIATE GIFTS! What were you thinking? Lingerie is gifted to a lover, someone who is willing to get intimate with you! This girl didn't even say yes to commit to you yet and you want to buy her lingerie? She probably thinks that you're more interested in getting into her knickers than dating her because you love her! Apologise immediately and tell her that you were out of line -- that you weren't hinting at getting physical, but wrongly believed gifting lingerie is a romantic gesture!

dj_1180 asked, i m in love with a girl since last 6 months and we are going to marry in coming feb, but last week we had our first physical, but since then she is changed, most of the times we are fighting and since last nigh i had not spoke to her due to the fighting between us , please advice what should i do?

Love Guru answers, Something must have happened during this physical encounter of yours, to upset or annoy her. Approach her in person and gently tell her that you don't want to fight, but that you need to know what's wrong -- even if the problem is related to your intimacy, because couples who don't talk about their sex lives will never enjoy it.

prksh asked, Dear love guru.. i lv a girl 4 t last few months, we got very much closer. my pblm is she is very social to every one, that creates doubt to me -eventhough i know she cant cheat me. tis creates problem sometimes. vat 2 do?

Love Guru answers, A friendly person is bound to have plenty of close friends. Stop getting jealous. All these people she knows she probably knows since before she met you -- but she didn't choose to be with any of them, she chose to be with you. So stop being an insecure doofus of a boyfriend and learn to be friendly too, instead of trying to rule your girl's life and curb her nature!

Gagan asked, Hi i am Gagan . Unfortunatlly i break all relation with my friend . But after breaking i realise that i love her so much .. I join in new company , from last six months i did not call to her . and i make two fake id,s and i did wrong with her . i play with her imotion but now i am very sad. i want to propose her nad i am fearing that what she will think . she is very dissapoint from me and she do not want to see my face . suggest me what sholud i do?

Love Guru answers, Show her your face anyway and tell her that if she doesn't want to see you after that, you will respect her wishes. Apologise wholeheartedly and tell her the truth about everything. Everyone makes mistakes, only a fool repeats them. If after everything you say she doesn't want to see you, it is her wish. But if she is at all reasonable and genuinely feels for you, she will forgive you -- eventually, if not right away.

sunil_0297 asked, i have no grilfriend canyou give me a girlfriend

Love Guru answers, Do I seem like Santa Claus to you, darling? If you want a girlfriend, start mingling with girls and become friends with them -- only if they show more interest in you than usual, pursue a relationship.

sandyrock asked, hiii my gf is going 2 canada i did want not her 2 go there my gf is from delhi i from mumbai i love 2 much i want her not 2 go 4 canda she going 4 stdy for 4-5 years plzzzz tell me that should i do plzzzzzzzzz i am in big depression mr luv guru plzzz reply me

Love Guru answers, You cannot come in the way of someone's academic career. Sorry, dear, but there's really nothing to be done here. 4 years is a long time and long-distance relationships are tough...talk to her and tell her how you feel, but don't tell her that she should give up her education for your love. If both of you try to make it work, it will work.

secondinnings asked,  I am 40. We both are divorcess. I have been a live with her & her son for the past 10 months. Though there is no ambiguity between us... the fear of getting back into any marital commitment is prohibiting her from making a commitment. We both are profesionals, and care for one another. Both want to stay together forever., is marriage the solution.. or is it just a mind set and enactment of the stereotype marriage has ??

Love Guru answers, 10 months isn't a very long time...I would suggest you give it a couple of years and then tie the knot. Your lady friend probably doesn't want to rush into this because of her son. Are you ready for the role of a fulltime step-dad? Make sure you are ready for this too and you'll be able to make it work.