susan asked, Hi loveguru, Ive been married for 3 years now and i have a son. My problem is that i have caught my husband watching porn a number of times. Recently, i deleted all those channels from my TV but i still keep feeling that he may be watching it or may be using other ways to satisfy himself !!!! PLEASE HELP !!!!!!!

Love Guru answers, Susan, a lot of men watch porn and it's got nothing to do with the love they have for their wives. In fact, some couples watch it together to put the spark back in their sex lives. You should talk to your husband about it and stop behaving so paranoid. He is an adult, after all and isn't sneaking around behind your back. Tell him how you feel and he'll tell you how he feels. Work at it.

s asked, I have a very close friend. He is having two sisters. As his parents considered me also as their son, I always have seen his sisters as my own. But, very recently, his younger sister gave me a shock of my life when she said that she is deeply in love with me and she will not marry anyone other than me. I advised her to remove such thoughts from her mind but she refused. I do not know how to make her understand and also how to inform my friend. Please advise.

Love Guru answers, Break it to her gently that while you care about her a lot, you will not be marrying her, come what may. Also, you may consider talking to your friend and his parents, since they are so close to you. Explain to them that you love her as only a sister and simply cannot bring yourself to look at her as anybody else. They may also reason with her and help her get over it.

brij asked, hi loveguru PLEASE PLEASE REPLY... there is this girl in my life and we both love each other so much. We are in love with each other since last 3 years. Sometimes ago there were family problems at my side and I said I will not be able to marry her. Her trust and heart was broken. But then after a bit struggle my parents agreed and now there are no problems. But still she can not trust me like before, and that hurts me a lot. Because if she does not trust me then how can I marry her? What should I do?

Love Guru answers, Brij, she feels cheated and I don't blame her. When you broke up with her over family problems, you were choosing your parents over her. She is now insecure that she comes second to you and your parents come first. Moreover, she probably thinks that if your parents had not agreed, you would never have come back to marry her. So they are still a major concern. Probably, tomorrow if there is a misunderstanding between your wife and parents, you would stand by your parents. No woman would appreciate that. So you better tell her that she comes first for you and that you made a mistake because you were stressed. Also assure her that it will never happen again.

boobby123 asked, hi love guru its been 2 yrs since i got married ...but some where down the line i think we are loosing intrest in love life(both of us are emp's and work for 12 hrs a day).At present i cant afford time for a holiday or honeymoon ..pls advice

Love Guru answers, So make the most of your days off. Go out for meals together, laze around in bed and chat, just leave all responsibilities off on your holidays -- they can wait, but a failing marriage can't. Also, be spontaneous and romantic -- you have no idea how far a bouquet of flowers for no reason or an unplanned candlelight dinner will go.

muskaan asked, hi there...my problem is my b.f's nature...i know him since 8 years & he was so good then,i mean very fun loving & talkative,caring & wenever we fight he used to call the same day & clear all matter...but for the last 1 year he has changed a lot.he fights over small issues,doesn't talk much or joke...i only have to talk & say something which makes him laugh.he doesn't talk to me for days now wenever we fight,i thought some time or the other he may be like before but now i'm sick of his behaviour,i told him many times to be jus like before but he says he is always like tis.i even told him then we better breakoff if he doesn't love me anymore but he is against our breakoff,he says he can't live witout me & he doesn't talk to any other girl too...i fail to understand him.we r engaged now & may get married after 3 months...so wat shud i do to get his old nature back.please help

Love Guru answers, You can't judge someone's personality from when they were kids -- even Adolf Hitler may have been a charming child at one time! Your boyfriend has grown up and this IS his nature, not what you remember from when you were kids. So you better make sure of what you're getting into. And tell him straight off that if he thinks he can punish you by fighting for days, you'll just walk out on him.

sunnybal1 asked, what is the right time to start sex in a love relationship???

Love Guru answers, When both partners are comfortable, willing and keen on the idea.

Kapil asked,  I am married for 3 years and have a yr old kid. My wife used to work before marriage and had to leave the job coz of pregnancy. Now she finds it boring at home and also have minor conflicts with my mom i.e her mother in law.. (not an open fight, but taking behind back type...) she wants us to stay separately and work. i have my own business and am only son with another sister. please help.. and suggest.. You asked, I am married for 3 years and have a yr old kid. My wife used to work before marriage and had to leave the job coz of pregnancy. Now she finds it boring at home and also have minor conflicts with my mom i.e her mother in law.. (not an open fight, but taking behind back type...) she wants us to stay separately and work. i have my own business and am only son with another sister. please help.. and suggest..

Love Guru answers, What is your take on this situation? Is your mother being unfair to your wife or is your wife being unreasonable? I think if she just started working again, the problem would be solved. Else, if things are really difficult for her living in your mother's house, you should really consider moving out. You could stay close-by to your mother. She may be hurt for a month or so but she'll come around to it -- she is your mother, after all. But if your wife decides to walk out on you, she may not be so willing to come back.

awaara asked, hi LOVE GURU IM IN LOVE WITH A GIRL,SHE ALSO LOVES ME BUT EARLIER SHE WAS AN ESCORT N NOW A DAYS SHE IS NOT DOING ALL THIS BULLSHIT BUT I DNT KNOW I FEEL THAT SHE IS USING ME AS SHE LIES ME ALOT ALWAYS DEMANDS MONEY FROM ME SHE GOES TO NIGHT CLUB N COMES BACK HOME LATENITE KINDLY ADVISE AS M VERY MUCH UPSET

Love Guru answers, If she goes to nightclubs to party and comes home late, okay (although I don't understand why you don't go with her). But demanding money from you and lying to you? Not cool, my friend. You should find out what she is up to by just talking to her frankly. Ask her what's happening and that everyone has their limit -- you won't tolerate her attitude much longer.

Love Guru says, Time for me to say goodbye, my dears! Sorry if I haven't been able to answer your questions -- come back next week, same time, same place!