sunny215 asked, hello, i am in a relation since 2 n half yrs now. the problem now is, there is this one more guy who is my girlfriend's friend who is interested in her. he has confessed he likes her, and told her "he knows she is in a relation and he wont create any filmy love triangle problems", but at the slightest opportunity, takes advantage of her, and she unintentionally and unknowingly does things which encourage him. despite telling her to avoid him, she tells me she cannot stop speaking to someone just because he likes her. this problem has been stressing me out, what should i do?

Love Guru answers, Nobody does things to encourage someone else unknowingly or unintentionally, so maybe you should think about that. You have to be secure in a relationship and if a third person is making trouble, the blame lies with your own partner for allowing him to do so. Tell your girlfriend this fellow makes you uncomfortable and while she should not avoid him outright, she can fix the situation so that he gets the message loud and clear.

Ankit asked, Hi love guru, I am a doc. n infatuated by my junior..she's 4 yrs junior to me..i talk to her everyday...n whenever she is unable to talk to me i become very restless..very sad..i dunno like world as a place at dat time...she's quite kiddish n bubbly n takes it very normally but i can't take this a normal relationship...i am not able to enjoy nything these days...i am always under a fear to lose her..n i hav no guts to explain everything out to her!!! plz help me sir!!

Love Guru answers, So, doc, you help save lives and you refuse to heal your own heart? Come on, now...talk to the girl and tell her how you feel. Just think of it as a prescription for yourself! How long will you live in constant fear of losing her? If you don't gather up your guts now, someone else will! So either be prepared to take the plunge or then eventually to bid her goodbye!

Reena asked, Mine is a love marriage. I was married in Nov 1993 and having 2 children. I love my husband a lot but he is doing nothing . I am a working lady.But I get only hatered and abuses from him. I m trying my best that he will get a job but he is not intreseted. My mom in law is handicaped lady and my pa in law is a retired person. Due to the intereference of my sis in law we r living seperately from them,but my husband cooks for them and my sis in law is there from 10 am to 6 pm. Tell me what to do

Love Guru answers, So you have a good-for-nothing husband who abuses you, who's dumped all his family responsibilities on you and whose sister creates trouble for you? Reena, what do you love about this man? I think you're more in love with the memories that you've shared in the past. Living in such an environment isn't good for your kids either. Give him an ultimatum to get off his butt and start being a responsible, loving husband, or then walk out. I think you've wasted enough time with this man.

Kiran asked, Hi Love guru i love a girl she too loves me im a christian she's a hindu basically north indian her parents like my personally but they are not interested to marry pooja they r againest and my parents too againest our marriage,and i dont like to do anything againest my parents and their parents,pooja's old friend is interestd to marry her he's a hindu she called him and told to speak to her parents and family,she asked me to elope and marry within 1 week

Love Guru answers, Get together with Pooja and call both your parents. Tell them that you love each other and want to get married with their blessings, but will be forced go against them if they are unreasonable. You haven't told me your age nor Pooja's, though, so if you both are below 23 or 24 years of age, I would strongly suggest that you think things out and that it's too soon in your lives for such a decision in any case.

shabnam asked, r u there.....reply....i am in a relationship frm 7yrs.we luv each other a lot and also our parents also know abt it .But my bf likes another girl frm 1 yr.He wants to marry her.I cant live without him..He also dnt want to lose our frdship.wat shud i do..my frds,relatives aslo are happy with us..but how cud i let them know...i cant see pain in my parents eyes

Love Guru answers, If your boyfriend has fallen in love with someone else there is little you can do, my dear. It happens all the time, to a lot of people. You just have to be strong and I would strongly advise breaking off all contact with him -- at least for some time -- if you want to successfully move on in your life.

Kailash asked, Hi Love Guru, The other day I had asked about my marital problem. This is KC from Delhi. I got married with a Nagpur based girl two years back, she lived with me only for six months or so and after that left me for reasons known to her only. Now she has asked for divorce and has filed four cases against me. Could you please tell me whether there is any possibility that she would come back, at my end I love here very much even now and do not want to break this relationship?

Love Guru answers, You can try talking to her, Kailash. Ask her why she wants a divorce -- tell her that if she has someone else in her life, you'll gladly separate from her, but if it's any other problem, you're willing to work at it, if she is. I wouldn't keep my hopes up if I were you, though, buddy -- nobody files for divorce unless their mind is pretty much made up.

funlover asked,  i have been dating with aussie girl for last 8 months. We meet each other during weekend and holiday. We love each other and have good time together. The problem is she is not ready for marriage and for children. Probably, she gonna take 5 years for marriage and that is too late for me. But, i want to marry and have kid. What do you suggest? Should I wait for her or break up with her?

Love Guru answers, Listen, mister -- you simply cannot force someone to get married and have kids just because you want it now! You sound like a fool to me anyway, wanting to get married within 8 months of meeting her! If she says she won't be ready for awhile, that's that. It's up to you whether you love her enough to wait for her, or are just hellbent on settling down without caring who you're with!

Enter asked, Hello LOVE GURU ,(ITS A DIFFERENT QUESTION) I had a serious relationship with a girl for about 3 year (2002-2005) and she got married in jan 06 (serious family issues), but I am OK and she would be happy there bcoz we decided not to be in touch after her marriage and we did so, but dear LOVE GURU since yet I am not very much intrested in have any kind of relationship againg with any girl......is it the normal feeling after having breakup with a long relationship............. what to do to come over of it.....

Love Guru answers, Yes, it's normal. You aren't interested in a relationship with any other girl because you probably haven't still met one that you're sufficiently attracted to yet. Just enjoy life and meet new people. It will happen.