brokenarrow asked, Hi Guru,Greetings!! i ve been trying to get in touch with yu since long hope yu reply this time.My wife clings to her mother a lot & her mother is trying to break our family n relationship,apparently my mother doesnt say anything to my wife.my wife keeps on comparing everything rather evry silly thing with her family background keeps on saying i do not have funds for her i dont even ask her to make lunch or dinner most of the times we dine outside.she is a born under our religion & now has accepted something other just because of some conversion counsellers also preaches some other religion & treats religion & our worshipping styles badly which i dont like at all,kindly tell me the solution how do i procceed & save my marriage & our relationship i tried talking to her but she tells it to her mother & her mother interferes & says that i shud not say anything to her daughter ...my wife is working female ...
Love Guru answers, Your wife needs to keep her relationship with her mother and her relationship with you and your family separate. Tell her that continually discussing the minus points of your family is only putting strain on your marriage. But her decision to follow another religion is her decision -- maybe she has been too easily influenced, but believe me, if that's the case she herself will realise soon. But the more you try to lecture her about it the more stubborn she will become about it. So leave it alone -- if she's made a hasty move, she will regret it herself. But tell her not to criticise the ways of others.
dhanya asked, My friend wants to marry me.He is very frank and likes me a lot.He is living in abroad and he has told his parents and they are interested.I have not told my parents.i don know wat to do????????
Love Guru answers, Do you like him? Do you want to be with him? If so, tell your parents and proceed with the relationship.
rushi asked, Hi I got engage with one girl from austraila .we start to talk on emails as our parents discuss the same..and after four month she came down to india we spent some days with together and decided to get engage and then after we spent almost a month ....after that she gone back Aus and within seven days she was reaction and telling me NO.... now nothing is between us but i want to know why it has happen?? is it something wrong in our relationship
Love Guru answers, I think her saying no had something to do with her visit. The reason could be anything -- maybe she doesn't want to settle here, or doesn't think she will be able to adjust to your parents? Also, she may have discovered upon meeting you that she doesn't want to marry you? The reason could be anything, so ask her why she has called it off and if possible, work towards a solution.
ravusuny asked, hi.. please reply again.. its matter of my life...as per ur previous reply ...i tried 2 b just as frnd frm long time but just cldnt as our relation was too close.. n i just cant take her out of my mind.. i m suffering alot.. i was tooper thruout n now i hv been thrown out of my project. i have lost abt 5 kgs in last 2 wks.. i was even hospitalized two days back.. i want to talk 2 her but i know she will still not support me. what shld i do.. i really cant live without her.. even my parents are supporting me but now even thy say me y r u destroying ur life coz of 1 person.. even i know i m destroying my life but i m helpless.. i just ant take her out of my mind even if i keep busy... plzz tell wat shld i do?? i told her sis dat my parents will directly talk 2 ur parents n she said NO.. coz thn thr father will make her marry 2 any1 n even she will have 2 loose the job.. i m sacrifising from all sides... i still think i will not do nything coz thn even she will loose the job.. i dn knw wat 2 do.. please help
Love Guru answers, Okay, this may sound crazy, but then you have to cut this girl out of your life completely -- at least for some time. If she is not agreeing to go against her family, don't try to force her. You have to let it go, my dear. I agree with your parents -- why are you ruining your life for a person who has no backbone? She won't stand up to anybody. Start taking care of yourself. The first week may be difficult, but in a few months' time you will be fine -- and relieved to be out of it, whether you loved her or not. This kind of trauma just isn't worth it.
se asked, Hi lg..am 25 m. I have a female colleage who is married. Recently she went to some other country. When she was here...she said i was his really gud freind...We used to chat a lot while in office on gtalk...but now since she is there...she is not replying me on chat. I liked her as a friend... we used to send fwds to each other...but she has stopped mailing me also...few weeks before once when she met online..i told her that it seems she isnt interested in my friendship anymore...but she said ..i am crazy to think like that..and plz dont think that way....However she hasnt been chatting with me or sending me any emails...can u please suggest what went wrong?
Love Guru answers, Well, she's in a foreign country and is probably busy. Plus, she's married, so she has a husband to spend time with too. I'm sure nothing is the matter, it's just that her life must be hectic of late.
Love Guru says, Well, time's up guys! Write to me at mailtheloveguru@rediffmail.com and tune in next week, same time, same place! See you then!
Also see: 'My girlfriend married my family friend'
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