Anil asked, Hi Luv Guru, I work for an MNC org,Our HR in that org is a bitch, She has affairs from Security to boss,And more or over she is behind me, i am system admin in our off & she gestures & signals me all the time, am not interested in it,kindly help.
Love Guru answers, Anil, I'm sure you must be uncomfortable receiving attention you don't want from this woman. The best way to tackle it is to simply ignore her hints and keep things strictly professional.
sujata asked, i m sujata my to betterhalf i think he do not love what i expect from him he is never possessive for me i feel very bad that i love him so much and he never what i do he never takes me seriously but i know he loves me lot but never showing i like to show love but never that type how sholu i behave with him?
Love Guru answers, Thank your lucky stars that your partner is a sensible man who is not insecure and possessive! People who are assured of their love for each other never are!
piu asked, please tel me one boy of age 34 and i m 21 loves me very much but for me its ok.....should i go for it.......will our marriage last long.my and his opinion does not match
Love Guru answers, Your age gap is very large, you're not in love with him and you disagree on most issues. Why are you even thinking of marrying him? Of course it won't last. You're still very young, enjoy life and then settle down with someone you love and who loves you back.
Zubin asked, Hi Love Guru. It has been 10 years since my marriage. I am just 40. My marriage has totally failed. There is no love. There is no physical relations taking place. Yet because of the social taboo and for the sake of young children I don't want to take divorce. Yet at times I feel totally lost. Totally empty. I don't think I can survive in this state. I am comtemplating having an affair. What do you advice?
Love Guru answers, Hi Zubin. You have two choices, my friend -- either have a heart-to-heart talk with your wife about the sorry state of affairs and try to save your marriage (couples counselling, discussing your issues without fighting), or then file for divorce. Believe me, it's better you both separate and your children see you both happy as individuals rather than them growing up in a dysfunctional atmosphere where their parents don't love each other. Your marriage is setting a bad example to them. And the hell with social taboo -- your own happiness is more important that the opinions of a few narrow-minded fools. An affair will only worsen things at this point. Either spearate from your wife or then make it work. After so many years of bitterness it may be an ego-hassle approaching each toher, but someone has to take the first step -- so go ahead.
ria asked, hi luv guru! im a 23 yr old,highly qualified, unmarried girl. My problem is that im in love wid a married man who is 28 yr old and he also luvs me passionately, about our love affair his wife and my family knows very well. we are commited towards each other, and want to spend our life ogether, i have no problem with his wife our kid. i do'nt know wat to do? how to live like this sometimes i feel like i do'nt have anything wid me and feel insecure.
Love Guru answers, If he loves you as passionately as you say, miss, why doesn't he leave his wife for you? Or do you want to spend the rest of your life as the 'other woman', without a husband and children of your own? If he's giving you the excuse that he has a child, let me tell you it's far better that he divorce his wife rather than have his child grow up knowing that his father is cheating on his mom. Either he leaves her and marries you, or then you end the relationship. You may not do as I say now, but believe me in the long run this present arrangement will ruin your life.
neha asked, hi sir,26 year old girl involve with a 32 yeard old guy,intially my bf like me very much but once after going phiscal my bf says yr balls r very loose not hard,he put a finger on my character,but i never invovlve in my life anybody,he is one whom i get so intimate and he is first and my last love,just because i don,t have something he want his love for me finishes,he says that i only look attractive in cloths,without them he don,t feel that i am attractive.so i am very disspointed after he talk like this . even his behaviour change much.,don,t know whether he marry me or not,but it hurt me much.what i do now,even my work suffer because of this.is body means so much in love.he love my body not me,is guy only attract to some special body parts.plz help me.am unable to understand all this.help me.
Love Guru answers, You're with a creep of the worst kind. I can't believe he said things like that and you took it! Dump him now, right away. The hell with a dude who cares only about your appearance and not you. Seriously. He doesn't deserve you at all. You need someone who loves you for the person you are, mind and body, with and without clothes!
raman asked, hi guru,
i am in love wid a gal and we have decided to marry. we communicated the same to our respective parents but the conversation between the two families went so bad that the situation is not good now.
we still love each other.how should we proceed further. due to our handling of the whole situation my family thinks my gal is dominating me which is not right.
Love Guru answers, If you both are happy and think that your families have misinterpreted your relationship, go ahead and get married. And I'd suggest finding your own house, because even grudging acceptance of your wife by your parents will make the home life tense and unhappy for all involved.
Love Guru says, Time's up, folks. See you next week, same time, same place. Mail me at mailtheloveguru@rediffmail.com. God bless and goodbye!
Also see: 'I'm a guy in love with a lesbian'
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