krishna asked, Hi love guru. My wife deserted me with my kid and i can't loose them. What needs to be done to et them back in my life.please guide.

Love Guru answers, Approach your wife and find out why she left. Do what it takes to rectify the situation that is making her unhappy. If she is hellbent on leaving you no matter what, go to court to fight for your rights to see your child at least.

manforman asked, dear LG, i am a man and in love with my sister's boyfriend. he has also given me mixed signals that he wants to carry on with her as well as me. shall i go ahead..

Love Guru answers, Don't you think you're putting your sister's happiness in jeopardy? Stop what you're doing and convince this boyfriend of hers to tell her the truth about himself -- not anything concerning you and him, because that will make her miserable, but that he is bisexual and attracted to men also.

Shailesh asked, I had been in love with a woman who was 11 years elder to me. We were very close each other and cared too. We had sex only once in the period of 4 years that we were together in a firm. Then she got married and left the city itself. Though I do not crave for relationship, I am kind of in need of someone like her. What is the solution?

Love Guru answers, There are very few women who want a relationship that is only physical and without committment. Don't you want to be with someone you care about and who cares about you too? Start dating.

Goju asked, I was in a relationship for over 6 years...finally she turned out to be a lesbian...what am I supposed to do now?

Love Guru answers, If you're sure beyond a doubt that she's a lesbian -- I'm hoping she's told you this or you have some concrete proof and that you're not just paying heed to rumours -- there's nothing you can do about it, Goju. It is a difficult situation but it's very rare for something like this to happen. You need to move on with your life and start dating other women.

911 asked, my wife chats with her ex almost daily. she twlls me though she doesnt talk to him much. she is concerned abt him.when i ask she downplays his importance, says she is just a friend. i have the transcripts of their chats. its not explicit in anyway but the attachemnt caring etc is apparent.i am fed up now.i want her too cut off all contact with him though she may always create another id n chat with him what do i do?

Love Guru answers, If she cares for him as a friend and you know there's no hanky panky going on, why does it bother you so much? You apparently trust her -- tell her that it upsets you that she's paying so much attention to her ex, not because you don't trust her, but because he may get false hopes about her or may still be in love with her. Tell her you're not asking her to stop talking to him, just to keep things normal and not go overboard talking to him all the time -- because it makes you uncomfortable.

take asked, Dear LG, I have a boyfriend since 2 years who loves me more than i do. Since few days i get attracted to someone in my office who is interested in me. I am also liking him. I am totally confused WHAT SHOULD I DO?

Love Guru answers, You shouldn't be leading your boyfriend on if you don't really love him -- you're only holding on to him till you find someone else. That's taking advantage of a person and you should be ashamed of yourself for doing this to the poor chap for. Break it off -- NOW. And tell him you're sorry for leading him on like this.

Ibdmum asked, Hi love guru, I have been waiting for a woman since 4 years who has been in and out of relationship with me and now she does not feel like telling her parents about me because she is scared of the people in her house and also that she wants to marry with their consent and stuff to make them happy but she knows how much we are fond of each other. Now i see her drifting away and i cant stop her- breaks my heart everyday and painful it is to see her cutting communication with me - i am as usual silent- nor do i have the courage to get the truth out from her- weird situation- Because i love and care for her. What should i do - just forget about everything?

Love Guru answers, Tell her how you feel and tell her she shouldn't throw away her life's happiness just to please her parents. Why don't you have your parents approach hers with a formal proposal? They may be okay with it if you go the formal route.

byomkesh.bakshi asked, We are 3 room-mates: Me, Rohit & Tatya. My friend Tatya is having affair with Reema (my collegemate). When Tatya goes on tour, we (me & Reema) go physical; though I am hooked to Janhavi & marrying in coming December. My third friend Rohit happens to be ex-boyfriend of Priyanka - my fiance's (Janhavi) distant cousin. Priyanka has been aborted for pregnancy from Rohit. Now she has come to know about our engagement (mine & Janhavi). She had been to our place last Sunday & created a high drama over Rohit. She says Janhavi won't be happy with me due to threats (??) from Rohit. She also abused Tatya (for no reason). Being aware, Rohit has threaten to expose me to Tatya & Janhavi, about my relations with Reema, if I come in between him & Priyanka. So I am helpless & can't help Priyanka. All the above have created tension between me & Janhavi. I dont want to lose Janhavi. Pls help - what should I do?

Love Guru answers, Your problem sounds like a riddle. If you care so much for Janhavi and Tatya, why were you sleeping with Reema, knowing it would hurt them? Tell Rohit now that you don't want to interfere in his relationship with Priyanka in any way and tell Priyanka that you feel for her situation but choose not to get involved. Tell Janhavi to tell Priyanka the same thing -- despite being her cousin, she shouldn't get involved. Other people shouldn't interfere when there is a problem between two lovers. Let Rohit and Priyanka sort things out themselves. And stop sleeping with Reema, you lowlife!