LostAndConfused asked, Hi Love Guru.I am a 24 yr old female in a relationship since past 2 years and would probably get married by the next year.I am still in love with my ex head over heels and I am unable to forget him.The situation is getting worse day by day.I want to move on but whenever I try I find myself not be able to move an inch.My ex doesn't want me but for some reason I am still stuck to him.My career is going for a toss.I know I deserve a happy and successful life but even after making umpteen number of efforts I feel lost and confused.I can't leave my current bf because here I am acting a little selfish and don't want to let go off a secure future.I've lost confidence in myself.I've stopped socializing.I've made myself very exclusive.My mind wants to explore the world but my heart rules over my mind.I was thinking if you could suggest a way out?Many thanks.

Love Guru answers, Talk to your present boyfriend about how you feel. Tell him you want to get over your ex completely and that he needs to help you do it. Go away together on a trip -- explore the world like you wish to and put your trust in your present boyfriend. If you don't really love him, you should not lead him on like this because you want a secure future. He deserves someone who will make him happy.

smith asked, hi my self madhu. one boy is behind of me. but i am in love with another boy. i said that boy how many time that sorry i am allready engaged but that boy is not ready to listen any thing. whaat i have to do? if i tell for my parents means they will come to know about my love. if i tell for my boyfriend means he will tell me give his details i will do any thing to him. so what i have to do? pls ans me

Love Guru answers, Tell your boyfriend about this and have him help you deal with this persistent fool. And tell your parents about your relationship -- if this boy is so un-relenting, he may be dangerous. Go to the police if necessary.

sunitha asked, hai i am a guy from bangalore , i loved a girl when i was in graduation truly, deeply & madly .... she used to talk just like as if i m her husband .... now she is doing her Post graduation (Msc In Biotechnology ) and i m working in a well established firm .. i want to know whther she can marry me ......and she knows everything about me by friends .....will it be successfull > help my love guruji ////////////

Love Guru answers, You'll never know till you try to be brave and approach her! So go ahead and do that instead of getting cold feet!

khushbu asked, hey love guru, i was in a replationship with a guy since 2 yrs, it was long distance relationship wherein we used to c each other once in 6 month......d relation was going fine... but ma bf had a friend since his school days who always liked him and wished to be in a relationship with him...which both of us knew....even she knew he was in a relationship with me...still she used to....... which led me to insecurity and ma insecurity turned our relationship to a mess....n we lately broke off.....after our breakup i came to know he lost his father and in an emotional distress he tried to make up for our relationship but then moved back...... love guru i really want him back...i know i was wrong but i m trying ma hard to make up but all in vain....wht should i do....????

Love Guru answers, Go meet him. Tell him that you're sorry and that long distance is hard -- only true love can withstand that test sometimes. If you speak your heart out to him without behaving desperate to get him back, he will respond. Tell him this is the last time you're trying -- love also means forgiveness. If he loves you, he will forgive you.

abcxyz asked, hi..my gf wants me to meet her every day which is not a problem actually but of late its getting kind of boring to meet evvery day without having time for myself...i tell her this and she starts fighting with me for being too mean...she is sensible but in come cases hse beihaves weird..n e thng u can suggest to help me out avoid probloems with my sweetheart???

Love Guru answers, Tell her to stop behaving like a child! Absence makes the heart grow fonder -- she should give you your space. Reassure her that while you love her from the bottom of your heart, there are times when you need to be alone or with friends -- and encourage her to go out with her friends once in a while also.

Raghav asked, Hi LG, gud afternoon,I am a well-built guy and most of the girls in my office have an eye on me. But I dont like any of them, but for a gal who seem to be adamant, But she is not caring for me while the rest does. wats the remedy?

Love Guru answers, Hmm -- tricky situation! You need to find out more about this adamant girl. If she is already in a relationship, maybe that's the reason why she is not interested. If that is the case, you'll just have to accept it! If not, maybe you need to become good friends with her first and then take things further.

avinashjan asked, hi i had 7 affairs in last 2 years..now im in serious reln..but there is one more girl came in my life..wat shld i do?...

Love Guru answers, Listen -- love is different and attraction is different. You can be attracted to other women while you're in love. But love is what should stop you from acting on those impulses. If you love your girlfriend, learn to overcome these urges to cheat on her.

Reena asked, LG, pls HELP me. I am 26 & my brother is 18. one night when I was asleep, he came to my bed & touched my breasts and pressed slowly. I realized all this but I didn’t say anything to him due to hesitation. Next day he again did some more with me & he also touched slowly between my legs but I was quiet. I think that he does not know that that time I am not in sleep. Now he is coming daily to me and touches, presses and kisses on my personal parts slowly & slowly. Now I am liking all this and even I keep waiting for him in the night and I show that I am sleeping. Whatever he does with me excites me very much. I am very much aroused that time. if all this is on, I am sure that I will not be able to control myself and I could get into sex with him. What to do.

Love Guru answers, This is absolutely unhealthy and has the potential to destroy your relationship with your brother. Remember the time when you were children -- when he was a baby and you held him in your arms. That is sacred and you should stop both of yourselves from doing this. Next time he does this, stop him. Talk to him and tell him that it's just sexual attraction and it's not healthy between brother and sister. If you both are so sexually frustrated, find yourselves partners outside the family. But stop this right now. It's already gone far enough.

ramramesh asked, Hi LG, what is the Consequences if a girl marries another man without leagely divorcing her first husband???????????

Love Guru answers, The second marriage is null and void. In a court of law, that second marriage will not be recognised. Also, you can face legal action if you don't go to court and sort this mess out.

Love Guru says, Well, folks, that's it for today! Be sure to come back next week, when I'll be hosting a special Valentine's Day chat and addressing dating issues! If I haven't been able to answer your question, please write to me at mailtheloveguru@rediffmail.com and I'll get back to you as soon as possible. Goodbye for now!