Raj asked, I M MARRIED AND HAVE CHAT GIRLFRIEND WITH WHOM I CAN SHARE EVERYTING. SHE ALSO HAS BOYFRIEND BUT SHE IS OK WITH HAVING CHAT TO ME. WE BOTH LOVE EACH OTHER. IS IT OK IF WE CONTINUE. ARE THR ANY DISADVANTAGES ?

Love Guru answers, What is the point of all this? You may not be cheating on your partners physically, but you are cheating emotionally. It's okay to be friends and share problems, not to fall in love. There is a limit on friendship and people in committed relationships like the two of you should not go further.

RO asked, hi.. i have just started dating a girl...who is really nice, pretty and smart. We have nice conversations and are getting along fine. Problem is I dont find her to be physically / sexually attractive. I am looking for a long term relationship, and find myself asking the question - Is this a very superficial way for me to think? Is physical beauty (hotness) that important?

Love Guru answers, If you say she's pretty, why aren't you attracted to her sexually? Physical beauty is what sparks off the first attraction in a relationship but it always dies out eventually. Because nobody can preserve their looks forever. You start to love a person for who he/ she is, not for how he/ she looks.

sagarbs asked, am in love from past 19yrs and i didnt approach her but we are good friends.she is in love with another one. but i didnt asked to love me ut be as friend and jest talk to me and can share her sadness with me but since 8months there is no message of how she is and where she is and she left me and now she is closely moving with another one. why i dont know this girls dont have stable heart because we are together since 19yrs

Love Guru answers, Correction, my friend -- YOU have loved HER for 19 years! You never approached her and she never was anything more than a friend to you from her side! So why shouldn't she love someone and move around with him? You need to get over it and start dating other women!

buddha asked, guess my question got a bit abstract. I dont want help with my feelings of lust for I know how to keep em in control. The problem is overcoming my shyness and interacting with them. Since I havent really interacted with girls, I dont know what my approach should be. I dont know what to talk about. All I can talk about is men with substandard ignorance, religion and spirituality. So, Please help me in finding a way out of this hole that I have dug for myself and am probably hiding in it :(

Love Guru answers, Listen, if you start treating women like you treat your male friends, you will voercome your shyness. Talk to women you meet exactly as you would to a man and you won't run out of conversation.

shashin asked, dear lg, i m moving again with a girl with whom i had broke up in past but both of us had not confirmed anything to each other.. we do talk all lovey dovey things but we dont say i love you to each other... she is kinda too emotional and too much dependent type... what to do next???

Love Guru answers, Too emotional and too dependent? If you feel that way, why are you back with her? For lack of a better option? That's a very cheap mentality. If you love the girl, tell her and if you don't, don't take advantage of her feelings like this.

amit dalal asked, i m in love with a girl but she had even refused to talk with me. she doesnt understand my feelings 4 her. frm d very 1st day itself when i saw her, i fell in love with her. i had proposed her 4 friendship 3 times but everytime i get the same reply 'no'. i asked her atleast tell me the reason for saying no 2 me but she doesnt reply anything. now tell me how should i approach 2 tell her dat how much i care 4 her n how much i luv her.

Love Guru answers, Amit, get the message -- this girl is NOT INTERESTED! Stop forcing yourself on her! She doesn't have to give you a reason, she just doesn't want attention from you! Stop making a nuisance of yourself and get over it!

sunilonline asked, I am a working professional. For the last 2 mnths a girl is in contact with me telephonically. Conversation started due to some confusion. I am happily married for 4 yrs & I told her this. I always try to make her understand the situation but she says - I assume u my hsbnd & not leaving chatting on mobile. What to do in this situation ??

Love Guru answers, Cut her calls! What do you mean, 'what do I do'? Nobody is forcing you to talk to her -- even she can't do that!

Love Guru says, Time to go, folks! Please tune in next week, same time, same place! Also, you can email me at mailtheloveguru@rediffmail.com. Cheers!