pradeep_dixit1 asked, hey guru, actually my problem is, i am not sure wether i love my to be wife or not? i care & like her very much but not sure about love....Please tell me how can i decide that?

Love Guru answers, Don't decide -- let it grow on you! You've made up your mind to get married and as the relationship progresses you will develop feelings for her and she for you. Good luck!

shiten asked, hi, love guru. i m a project manager in a reputed IT company. i have a housewife and twins of 8 months. my problem is that my wife is very much dominating and of very angry nature. if i argue or get angry, she turns violent. if i stay cool, she dominates me even more. what to do? how to deal with her? thanks.

Love Guru answers, Shiten, you shouldn't be tolerating this kind of behaviour from her. Tell her that marriage is a compromise and if she dares to turn violent, tell her you'll call the police and they will separate her from the children! I think maybe she needs psychiatric help -- take her to a counsellor and see what is to be done.

anand asked, sir i m 27 yrs old , i was married with a lady in feb 2002 due to my parents pressure, but from day one and till today i have not accept her as a wife beacuse i dont like her these all thing i already told to her family but they said that " abhi baccha hai akal aajayegi" at the time of marriege i was 21 of yrs. i m a software eng.. and i dont understand that what i'll do for my life bz her family members also presurize us that they'll claime 'DAHEJ PRATHA".. SO TELL ME SIR WHAT I 'LL DO..

Love Guru answers, You should never have gotten married under pressure. If you want to get out of this marriage, file for divorce -- and beat you oversmart in-laws at their own game. Lodge a police complaint that they have threatened to level false charges of dowry against you because you want to divorce your wife.

Yes asked, Love Guru, I am a 30 year old software professional, had an intimate relationship with my ex-manager, who is 4 yrs senior to me! Both of us had to change our jobs, and move ahead in our lives, since our parents and peer circles didn't accept our relationship. Is it wise to revive the relationship (since both of us are still in constant touch), or should we drift away?

Love Guru answers, There is no reason why, if the two of you love each other, that you shouldn't be together. Four years is hardly an age gap to discuss, you both are not working at the same office anymore and as for your parents -- well, you know better where your future happiness lies! If you both want to pursue a relationship, go ahead!

sidana asked, Love guru,m in very pitty situation now a days .Let me tell u a month ago my grlfrnd left me and she got engaged with his 6yrs old bfrnd.But suddenly after one month again i approach her .she said she was ready to come in my arms ...now again she is with me ..i am in confusion that whether she could stay with me ........love guru wht to do in this type f situation.......

Love Guru answers, She seems pretty fickle-minded, I don't blame you for being worried. Talk to her honestly and say that you don't trust her after her going back and forth from one guy to the other. Tell her that she needs to make up her mind and stick to her decision, so she should choose between you and him once and for all. If she doesn't choose you, live with it. At least you'll know you're not with someone whose heart lies elsewhere!

VIVEC asked, my girl is bisexual.is it morally ok to let her sleep with a female and me at the same time?will it amount to cheating?

Love Guru answers, Listen, what happens in your own bedroom is something you and your girlfriend need to be comfortable with, not anyone else. That being said, let me tell you that even bisexual people can enter into committed relationships with one other person without craving sex with both genders! If she is attracted to a woman and wants to sleep with her, what's to stop you from sleeping with another woman you're attracted to? And then where does the sanctity of your relationship go? It becomes a free-for-all with no committment.

sidh asked, hi, I had a breakup with my girl friend recently. There were many mistakes from her side. Is it okay If I point all her mistakes to her and scold her? She thinks we can become good friends. But I dont think so. what do u think? I AM ASKING THIS QUESTION FROM PAST 3 MONTH. PLEASE REPLY THIS TIME.

Love Guru answers, Listen, it takes two hands to clap. If you decide to point out her mistakes, she may decide to point out yours -- can you take it as easily as you're willing to dish it out? If you don't want to remain friends with her, don't and tell her why. If you want to, just clam up and remain friends -- don't bring up the relationship.

Rahulk asked, Hi, me and my fiance live in different states in India. She is working. She has lot of friends who are guys.. One day i just accidently happen to check her mail box. I found a suspicous mail. I think that she is in love with somebody else and trying to hide the fact with me. Whenever i ask her whom she went with and what and all she did. She hesistates to answer. This gets me more suspicous. On the other hand she does love me a lot. I am not able to understand whether to continue the relationship or not? How do i make her speak her mind?

Love Guru answers, By not pouncing on her and just talking honestly. It's easier to get attracted to someone else when your loved one is far away, but she should be able to tell you that. And if she does, appreciate that she told you the truth instead of cheating you. Aside from that, let me tell you I think you have severe trust issues. You 'accidentally' happened to check her inbox? Come on, who are you kidding? And you also mentioned she has a lot of male friends. It's very possible that since you like keeping tabs on her, she probably doesn't like to tell you if she's meeting her guy friends because even though she's doing nothing wrong, you probably don't like it. So she's hesitant in her answers! Grow up, Rahul and stop being so insecure!

Love Guru says, Well, I'm off now, people! If I haven't been able to answer you, write to me at mailtheloveguru@rediffmail.com and I'll reply as soon as I can. If you'd rather not have your name published in the email responses, do let me know -- your ID will be kept confidential! And please be patient, since I have tons of mail to respond to! Till next week, cheers!