News APP

NewsApp (Free)

Read news as it happens
Download NewsApp

Available on  gplay

This article was first published 13 years ago
Home  » Get Ahead » Couples who delay sex have better marriages

Couples who delay sex have better marriages

Source: ANI
Last updated on: December 23, 2010 17:11 IST
Get Rediff News in your Inbox:

If you wait before you get intimate, it's better for your relationship, says a new study.

Today it is common for couples to explore their sexual compatibility before making long-term plans together. But a new study sides with a delayed approach, in which people wait for a deep level of commitment before having sex.

The study involves 2,035 married individuals who participated in a popular online marital assessment called 'RELATE'. From the assessment's database, researchers selected a sample designed to match the demographics of the married American population. The extensive questionnaire includes the question 'When did you become sexual in this relationship?'

A statistical analysis showed the following benefits enjoyed by couples who waited until marriage, compared to those who started having sex in the early part of their relationship:

Relationship stability was rated 22 percent higher
Relationship satisfaction was rated 20 percent higher
Sexual quality of the relationship was rated 15 percent better
Communication was rated 12 percent better

For couples in between -- those that became sexually involved later in the relationship but prior to marriage -- the benefits were about half as strong.

"Most research on the topic is focused on individuals' experiences and not the timing within a relationship," said lead study author Dean Busby, a professor in Brigham Young University's School of Family Life.

"There's more to a relationship than sex, but we did find that those who waited longer were happier with the sexual aspect of their relationship," Busby added. "I think it's because they have learned to talk and have the skills to work with issues that come up."

Sociologist Mark Regnerus of the University of Texas at Austin, who was not involved with this research, read the study and shared his take on the findings.

"Couples who hit the honeymoon too early -- that is, prioritise sex promptly at the outset of a relationship -- often find their relationships underdeveloped when it comes to the qualities that make relationships stable and spouses reliable and trustworthy," said Regnerus, author of Premarital Sex in America, a book forthcoming from Oxford University Press.

Because religious belief often plays a role for couples who choose to wait, Busby and his co-authors controlled for the influence of religious involvement in their analysis.

"Regardless of religiosity, waiting helps the relationship form better communication processes, and these help improve long-term stability and relationship satisfaction," Busby said.

The study appears in the American Psychological Association's Journal of Family Psychology.

Photograph: David Ball/Wikimedia Commons

 

Get Rediff News in your Inbox:
Source: ANI