'Sometimes, we blame it on friends because we don't want to face the truth. I recommend not doing so. Please have an open conversation with your girlfriend,' says rediffGURU Ravi Mittal, CEO of Quack Quack, an online dating website.
Is your partner giving you mixed signals?
Is s/he acting distant even after confessing her/his love?
Do you think a friend could be the reason behind such behaviour?
When emotions run high and there is no clarity, you could feel confused, betrayed and hurt.
"Don't make assumptions," warns rediffGURU Ravi Mittal, CEO of Quack Quack, an online dating website. "Sometimes, we blame it on friends because we don't want to face the truth," he adds.
- You can post your relationship and dating related questions to rediffGURU Ravi Mittal HERE.
Anonymous: I am facing a situation that I don't understand well.
I have been dating this girl for over three years but in those three years we used to chat only once a week.
Then things changed in an instant so we lived in different areas for a year.
We didn't speak to each other again until this year 2025.
I approached her and told her I still love her.
She said she loves me too and we kissed.
Now whenever I see her she doesn't come to me.
Every time I have to go to her I think it's her friend making her do this to me.
I understand it must be so confusing but I suggest you don't make assumptions.
Ask her respectfully. Let her tell you what the issue is.
Sometimes, we blame it on friends because we don't want to face the truth. I recommend not doing so.
Please have an open conversation.
Healthy relationships grow on clear communication and if you want to start this relationship on a happy and 'not so confusing' note, definitely speak to her.
Listen about her concerns and assure that you are committed to solving them. I am sure you will be able to work things out soon.
- You can post your relationship and dating related questions to rediffGURU Ravi Mittal HERE.
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