Charming asked, i know a good frend for 3 years now and now asked her out for a intimate relationship without any committment.she said she is ok with the idea but does not like making love in general cause of her past exp, what do i do

Love Guru answers, well, you need to give her time till she feels comfortable enough to make love to you. there is absolutely no point in forcing the issue.

BANOJ asked, I SAID A WOMAN FOR MAKING SEX RELATION WITH HER. bUT SHE SAID SHE DID NOT MAKE DISHONEST WITH HER HUSBAND. THEN I DID NOT TALK WITH HER, BUT BEFORE THIS INCIDENCE I WAS TALKING WITH HER REGULARLY. IN THE NEXT DAY SHE MADE PHONE AND SAID ARE U ANGRY ON ME? I SAID NO. THEN I DID NOT TALK WITH HER FOR A WEEEK. THEN I MADE PHONE AND SAID MY MOTIVE WAS NOT THAT. SHE SAID OK. BUT I WANT HER. CAN SHE MIGHT BE AGREED IF I MADE FORCE FOR THAT?

Love Guru answers, What are you trying to do, you selfish jerk? First of all, you cannot force anybody to have sex with you -- it's called rape! And secondly, stop trying to create trouble in her marriage. She is faithful to her husband, so stop being a homewrecker. I hope your wife sleeps with someone else, then you'll know what it feels like!

Arunab asked, Hi I m having crush on a gal in my office,i just wana convey my feelings to her,but fear that other from office will came to know abt this. wht to do...??

Love Guru answers, Arunab, you need to speak with her and then see if she is interested as well. if she indeed is, then just start dating and don't worry about what the workplace says. if there are rules against inter-office dating, however, then just decide between work and the girl. anyway, that's thinking too far into the future. for now, just talk to her and see what she's thinking.

kunaldixit asked, Hello Love Guru, I am currently overseas and have had on off relationships with many girls and seem to be enjoying this life but am also an adamant person who follows our culture a lot and my mum wants me to settle down now, what do i do, i mean i love my life without any commitments at the moment but also feel this has to happen sometimes but cant picture a marriage at all

Love Guru answers, The worst thing you can do is get married when you are not prepared for it and don't want to. Think about what counts more -- 'culture' or your life's happiness. There is nothing wrong with not getting married! And secondly, you'd also be ruining an unsuspecting young woman's life by marrying her when you don't want to in the first place!

KHDesi asked, I am a student at Hong Kong. I have this friend who is a Chinese girl. She is now in a relationship with another guy, and as I understand, it is not going great. She is very close to me and in spite of the differences, we have more in common than I ever had with any desi girl. It seems that she has a soft corner to me as well. I have never been in relationships before, but she had a couple of boyfriends before. As you can imagine, I will be risking my reputation back home as well as among my friends if I go ahead(which I don't mind if we end up together forever), and moreover I wont be able to move on that easily if it happens that we get into a relationship and happened to breakup (or to put in a better way, if she ditches me). I wish it wont happen, but given her history (it was she who initiated the breakup in both the cases before, for reasons which were not quite convincing to me; and she will have to initiate if she chooses to be with me), I am bit hesitant. Please advice me.

Love Guru answers, KHDesi, if you indeed are seriously attracted to this girl, you will not let her 'history' stand in the way. and for heaven's sake, start dating her before you start thinking of eternity and breakups. go for it right now, otherwise you'll always regret not even having tried for her.

RIDHIMA asked, Hi, I am Ridhima, married since last two year and also working as a secretary. My boss and i has a relationship means he used to touch me and even i enjoy it. Is it right as i am married???? Pls advice me.

Love Guru answers, It's absolutely wrong! You shouldn't have gotten into this situation in the first place -- talk to your boss and explain to him that you're very sorry, but this has to stop. If the situation at the office is messed up, you have only yourself to blame -- but it's better than your husband finding out and your marriage ending!

jdf asked, Hi Love guru, thanks to the caring nature of my fiancee, even if we have problems we always sort it nicely and never actually resort to blaming each other, cause the problems if they happens very rarely.. say once in two months!! Honestly... still my concern is when the problem is becasue of his parents .. thats when I get scared and fall sick even before the problem is spoken to him,,., how do I avoid such a situation, but he is very caring and never blames me as he knows his parents weakness..(silly things they start problems,,, like dont go late or tell her not to wear sleeveleess and that kinda makes me scared !) Else the normal arguments (coffee/.toffee) will continue I just need to know how do I face his parents after marriage.. should I tell them direct on the face(yet very nicely) Do let me know

Love Guru answers, well JDF, you need to be calm and try and avoid confrontation with your in-laws. if your fiancee knows that you and your in-laws don't get along, he needs to be the one who makes the effort to bridge the gap.

Nitin 0022 asked, LG plz help..I am in love with my teacher ,she also does,which she has told me a lot of tyms but the thought of a relationship with a student scares her,nd she starts tellin me that she is just afriend,now how do I make he realize what she really is feeling. I respect her and don want to get physical be4 a commitment but how do i make her realize that hugging and kissing is normal?

Love Guru answers, Nitin, kissing a teacher isn't normal at all, it's a fantasy! How old are you? This might be something that could ruin her career, so you have to think about what you are getting into. Is this really love?

wait asked, I LOVE ONE GIRL, BUT SHE TALKS WITH A BOY WHO IS MY FRIEND WHO LIKE HER, BUT THE GIRL KEEPS ON HIDDING THE FACT THAT SHE TALKS TO HIM, I HAVE NEVER EXPRESSED MY FEELINGS.. I AM NOT SURE WHETHER SHE LOVES ME OR MY FRIEND.. (MY FRIEND MAKES IT A POINT NOT TO ALLOW WE BOTH SEE EACH OTHER.. HE THINKS I DONT KNOW THAT) WHAT SHOULD I DO? PL LET ME KNOW LG

Love Guru answers, If you don't even speak to her and your friend does, I think in this situation you should let him have the girl. He made the first move and she is responding to him.

athlon asked, hi i like a girl she also likes me a lot but she hesitate to commit bcoz she had bad experience from her past relationships and told that she dont want to hurt me as this relationship will also not work for her.so wat should i do now??

Love Guru answers, tell her you have faith in her and that you are willing to take the risk of being hurt just for the opportunity to be with her.

Love Guru says, Well, that's it for today, people! Sorry if I didn't answer your question -- you can write to me at mailtheloveguru@rediffmail.com and I'll reply as soon as possible! Till next week, goodbye and God bless!