All you folks out there who've made a trip to the altar, tell us what we DON'T know about marriage!

Do you have to pretend to listen to your wife ranting, while actually watching cricket on TV with the sound muted?

Do you have to sweetly cajole your husband into doing the dishes when you secretly want to haul his butt straight into the kitchen?

Is there a constant struggle for power and control between you and your partner?

Marriage, arranged or love, almost always means a great deal of change and great deal of adjustment. Now that is something

that every person you've crossed paths with will have probably told you already.

But what about all those unexpected things that marriage throws at you? The need to keep working at it day after day, month after month, year after year?

Or the fact that marriage, like life, is not always fair? Or the sad truth that sometimes, just sometimes, it doesn't always last forever?

If you're hitched, we want YOUR advice -- personal advice -- on marriage secrets that No ONE lets you in on before you say 'I do'.

Tell us all about it -- share your opinions and experiences with us on Rediff ZaraBol.